married to an older woman with a son and everything changing?

Babywee · #1 Apr 21, 2008, 10:42 PM

This is long sorry bout that I wanted to give as much as I can.
I think I got married very young and for the wrong reasons, I married someone 4 years older than I am that had a 5 yr old son? we started dating when she was 26 and I was 22 got married when I was 25 we have a 1 yr old daughter and I love her to bits I would do anything for her but at this point it feels like I am in the marriage because I have a baby with her. A whole lot of things changed the warmth, the respect from her side I felt more like a prisoner than a husband, things became very cold and love making literally died we started drifting away the attention that I got before the marriage the bond the flame no longer there.

I have always been ambitious and I think my wife saw that in me.I am succesfull in my career and earning more than most guys in my age.I did not have property but owned a car when we met I have recently bought a property worth more than a million but scared that since we married in commun if we divorce she will have half of all I have. She is on the relaxed side of life I have tried to get her involved in so many ventures so we can both have a bright future but she is not intrested and I feel I am the only one worried about our future.

She is dragging me down in so many ways that I am loosing my drive to prosper in life.Did she agree to marry me just so that she can mother me and ristrict me in so many ways or what?? I have had it in this marriage already but I dont want to dissappoint our parents they have been supporting us throughout I am helpless????? help anyone

simoneaugie · Apr 21, 2008, 11:06 PM

You have a different view on life than she does. I'd suggest marriage counselling to get the communication going. If she is cold to you, you may seem cold to her. She may not realize to what point the situation has brought you.

Try to get talking again with her. If you two do split, after all, her friendship will bear on the custody agreement.

If the two of you were still having some good times and sex was on the menu, would you want to stay married?



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