Loves me,Cant live without me But Doesn't want to Marry me
Asked Jul 29, 2009, 12:40 AM
I have a problem with my relatuinship,me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years,it was he who proposed me and who insisted on commitment and marriage.we had a vry good and great moments together even though we had small fights in between that was common in every relationship.Initially I was not ready for all these things like love and marriage rather didn't thought of these things as I want to concentrate on my carrier I am a medical student by the way.It was this person who made me think that I should have someone special in my life... As days went on and as we spent time together I totally fell for him and I started loving him madly... then started our small small fights,but we were back again had our great time together... I used to get excited when I think about my future with him that was the only thing I wanted the most in my life...
Actually this person was not sure about commitment(coz he used to say I am committed and sometimes he used to fear about his parents because we belong to different religion).But then I used to believe whatever he said what he felt for me.Then last month we had a small fight and I stopped contacting him expecting him to come back(coz it was his mistake) as I expected he called me on July 1st to wish me on doctors day.I thought everything was normal I spoke to him normally.But something was missing from his side.I asked him what's wrong He says"i cant marry you".I asked him is this your final decision he says "ya it is".withou asking for a reason I let him to go.we didn't spoke for 5 days and then he contacted me to ask me howz everything going with me.I said everything is fine and we had a casual talk.
Then after he called me or text me everyday saying "i love you" at the end (but I didn't responed because I believe when you love someone truly then you would marry them) we used to have a vry casual talks.But day before y'day we were having our casual talks and suddenly he asked me whether I still love him or not I said you I do.I asked him can he live without me and he said no I cant.I then asked him did you felt bad for leaving me he says "no i never felt bad".I broke into tears and I asked him then why did return? He says "I know u suffer alot when suchthings(he means our break up) happen with u wont be able to concentrate on ur routine so i just wanted to tell u that concentrate on ur carrier.I was Confused by his statements....he says he cant marry me coz his parents wont accept me(but before making those promises he dint realized that his parents wont accept me??) .I said nothing i just said its ur wish... then he asked me whats ur wish i said "when you took your decision it doesn't make any difference if I wish something else"... and I kept the phone.
Iam totally confused by hs stamente he cant live without me but he cant marry me? Which was true he know... I need your help to make things clear does he loves me truly or else he was just passing time until he gets married to the one of his parents choice.But I love him madly and like a crazy there were many nights which I spent just by crying... I used to broke up into tears whenever he calls me... he is a nice person he used to say about our relationship after getting married how he's going to manage things to make me comfortable... the thought of marriage that made me fell for him madly because he used to be so sweet to talk about our marriage and kids... But now he says he cant marry me... without a genuine reason... I don't know what to do.whether to contact him or not.. whether should I receive his calls if he contacts me.what are his feelings for me? I am totally confused... please help... I still love him madly...