I so confused and I don't know what to do I'm married now for nearly 8 years but I'm not happy my husband has changed he lossed his sense of humour and just became so boring it's the same routine everyday and I'm just not happy in my marriage I now thing it was a mistake getting married. I'm in love with someone else I've been having an affair for the last 2 years or more and before I got married I was with him but it stopped until 2 years ago I love him so much and he loves me to he is divorced with 2 lovely kids which his ex wife will only let him see the kids once in a blue moon which is so unfair and hurtful to him. I'm willing to stand by him to fight for his kids as that's how much I love him as I know there come involved too if we get together I really love him more than life itself and I found out how much my lover means to me there 10 months ago when I had a miscarriage and lost our baby. Now me and my lover want to be together but I don't want to hurt anyone like my family or my husband which I know I will and I don't want my lover to lose his kids all over again as is ex is a right and would use the relationship to stop him from seeing his kid I feel I'm in a lose lose situation so what do I do we both want to be together but we also both have a lot to lose please help