Hello,
I have been married for close to 3 years now, we really dont have any issues within us at all. We are happy in all possible ways. We are emotionally attached, we are sexually happy. But yes because of my work nature i am unable to spend time with my wife as much as before. Also recently i have come across a women at work who has come really close to me; she knows me very well, knows that i am married and happy with my relation with my wife as well. My wife also knows her as a very good friend of mine. She has been telling that she loves me, and she loves me like crazy. We have even spend very intimate moments and made love couple of times as well. Now she is going to get married. I am getting emotionally involved cos i have also started to Love her. I love my wife as well, cos she is very good at heart and understands me well. I just want to understand how do i handle this situation, when the other lady in my life is going to get married but still promises to love me in the same way. What kind of a relation will that be? I am doing right but getting involved with her? If i get out of the relationship will it hurt her? It will be difficult for me to just get out if this cos i also love her. Please help me!!

N0help4u

yeah, Once you lose that trust and your wife chooses to keep the marriage it is really hard for her to trust. She will question every move you make and watch every step you take and you will feel like crap. Even try to make it out like SHE is the one that has a problem and needs help.

mjl

thats awful!!!!! I couldn't imagine! you took vows in your wedding. what happens if the girlfriend gets married and forgets about you and your wife frind out and leaves you (which I hope she does). You will be left with no one which you deserve no one because of your actions!

donf

Sammy,

I just cannot understand your original post! If you are happy in all ways, then why are you even looking at another woman with a plan in your mind to bed her. Next question,, exactly why do you see this woman as a friend to your wife? Is there some silly reason why this friendly woman is considering bedding down with you? Is this something you would do to your friend? Oh gee, since you are my friend, I just thought you would not mind if I was playing around in your wife's pants. After all, I am your friend and friends do share with one another, why don't you see if you can if you can get her in the sack with you, she would like that!

I don't understand your complete lack of respect for your wife. What about your "VOWS". Do you happen to remember those little things?

My suggestion is to hit your knees and say a prayer of thanks that you have not been drawn into a miserable existence yet and then make your peace with your wife, she deserves it.

sammy1982

Thank you very much,

This story has got over, my friend got married, have spoken about it. Have relief and peace restored in my life back.

amylc

Try asking yourself what you believe is the right thing to do and do it. Align your actions with your moral compass. Unless, you choose not to have morals, so you can have drama.

david405

what u wanna do it that u have to know which one want you like really bad my
thought is that u stay with ur wife i think that girl that likes you shes just tryin to get sum
u don't if shes clean or not and u be married almost 3 year don't let her come between u and you wife man

jasmine_rezzag

you guys have made mistake after you made love with her! you have hurted your wife! how could you say you love her? what about your marriage?what about your commitments?your wife does not do anything wrong to you and your marriage,but you do! i think you can meet many womens who know you well as your wife,maybe they love you as well,then you make love with them as well? then why you get married why you made commitments to your wife? to be honest,i do not like you after i read your post,i hate man who is not royal unfaithful to their love and marriage! life is long,you can meet many lures,do you want to try every time even your behaviour hurt someone else? you need self-controled,never find excuse for anything you do! you have hurted your wife,and you have hurted that woman unless she does not really love you! i don't like her as well! claiming love you,have sex with you,then get married with other man,and maybe continue keep sex relationship with you! what a !i hate that kind of person,i hate any person who use love as excuse to do something which will hurt some one else! love is not love if it hurt someone who love you!
i dont want to be rude,i do want to offend you!but i am really angry!but if my husband do such kind of something to me,i will devoice him! no one deserves hurt and pain especially when someone says love you and hurt you and the same time! i hate that! you should leave that woman at the very moment you know she love you and you know she wants to have sex with you!but you don't!

jasmine_rezzag

you know my ex did the same thing to me,i left him without hesitation.he was together with that girl! he even laughed at me with that girl,and said i was a loser,but know that girl left him,and he wants me back,but i refused without hesitation as well! you have to think about who is more important for you! sometimes,you make one little wrong move,you regret forever! marriage is divine,unless it is meaningless for you right now!

jasmine_rezzag

one more thing,if that woman really loves,she won't get married with other man so soon,even she knows you are married!maybe she will get married,but won't be so soon!i don't think she really loves you!

talaniman

Selfishness and arrogance, mixed with no remorse is a losers legacy. What goes around will come back around. Your actions are those of a human who has life and BS, all screwed up.