In love with a married man and I am married too.

xpressionu · #1 Jul 23, 2007, 03:00 AM

I have being married for 11 yrs. and going with a married man for 9 yrs. What do I do? He tells me he love me but, yet keeps important information from me that I needs to know. He puts other people in our relationship, and that's has caused a problem for us. I know that is not right to be with him but I really do love him. I am ready to get out. He can't be honest with me and I should not expect no more, but I am tied of his lies. Please help! I cry everyday. I want to let go but my heart say another. What do I do?
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Looking for peace in the heart

Emland · Jul 23, 2007, 05:29 AM

Let me see if I have this right. You have been cheating on your husband most of your marriage and you are upset because your lover is lying to you?

Do your husband a favor and divorce him. If you want peace in your heart, you have got to get the chaos and deception out of your life.

talaniman · Jul 23, 2007, 05:54 AM

Find some one better to cheat with. This one is worn out.

Dennis777 · Jul 23, 2007, 06:22 AM

Hello.

Cheating never works because the person your with is already living a lie and now so are you. From the start of the relationship honesty is out the window and all rules are gone.

If your not happy with your husband divorce him. Learn who you are now because your not the same Lady that married your husband years ago. With time we all change and living years worth of lies has to have changed your view on life and yourself. Once you get to know who you are then you can find out what you want in life to be happy.

If you have kids think about what your showing them by cheating. It,s OK for Mom to do because she has a good reason but they can't lie or cheat.

Good Luck
Dennis777

tobeamiss · Jul 23, 2007, 10:10 PM

decisions, decisions....................it must be hard.

nauticalstar420 · Jul 23, 2007, 10:17 PM

You have been cheating on your husband for almost all of your marriage? That is terrible. How do you think your husband would feel? How do you think your lovers wife would feel? I mean, how would YOU feel if you were being cheated on in this way?

You need to stop sleeping with someone else's man. Its not cool, and does not make you look good. It is not fair to your husband by any means, nor is it fair to your lovers wife.

You complain because he lies to you. Your whole relationship with this person is based on a lie! What more do you expect? If you want to be with someone else, that is fine. But dont lie to your husband. He has every right to know what you are feeling in regards to your marriage. And if you want to be with someone else, he has every right to not want to be married to you anymore.

tobeamiss · Jul 23, 2007, 10:29 PM

You're upset because he's not honest with you, and yet you continue dishonesty with your husband. Are you for real?

talaniman · Jul 24, 2007, 02:50 AM

When you are unhappy with your illicit lover, do you take it out on your husband? Why not cheat on your cheater, WITH your husband? That'll show that liar you can just go home, and he has to get his rocks off somewhere else.

Kygal · Jul 28, 2007, 05:04 AM

What if your husband had cheated on you these 9 years and why has it taken you 9 years to become frustrated?



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