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Lucinda, honey, you do deserve more than that. One of the bad things about what you're going through--actually what he's putting you through, is that we women start to question ourselves. I don't know why we (women) do this...but it makes us begin to think that we aren't as pretty, sexy, young, whatever...we blame ourself for lacking what he seems to be looking for somewhere else. Then we begin to think that no one else will want us and we put less value on ourselves.
Sure--there are women that are not effected by stuff like this--but I honestly think they are the exceptions to the rule.
You need to get out and spend some time with yourself--figuring out who and what you are so that you know who and what you want from a partner. And I certainly hope that what you want is someone that values you enough to treat you well and with respect.
Now here's a real kicker--not all gentlemen's clubs, but many, do have some 'side business' going on. Most of the time it does not take place within the club--or it's not 'openly condoned', but some of the girl do other things with the men in exchange for 'gifts'. Now I'm not saying that ALL the women do this--there are many who work to put themselves through school, to support a family, etc....but there are those who do hook up with the customers.
I feel so bad that you're in this place in your life, it's never easy to make this decision...no matter what you choose to do.
I appreciate your insite- pretty wise women RubyPitbull and robynhgl - thanks much.
I am a little more sane now and will talk to a counselor so I can try to stay that way.
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