Intra Faith marriage

Ithappenstoall · #1 Oct 28, 2009, 03:07 AM

Hello all,

I have a question regarding intra faith marriages and if anyone has personal experience regarding this matter.

A little bit about my situation: I am with a wonderful Muslim women in a long distance relationship and I am of Christian faith. To make things clear we started dating 10 months ago in the same city and now for 2 months have been in different parts of the world. I want to talk about this because I want to clear everything up before things get even more serious. We have expressed our thoughts of being together and we both want it to work. She tells me she doesn't see herself without me and constantly reminds me of that and I do the same.We already have mentioned things such as raising a family and where to live. On every level she is all that I want: caring, smart, witty, cute... you name it. If faith was not an issue there would be no problem We both have very close cultures. But now that it is, I find it really sad that this would be the reason why things wouldn't happen.

I hope you can help clear my head and make me see that even in this case, there can be light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks.

Ithappenstoall · Oct 28, 2009, 09:02 AM

Any opinion on this ?

carla123 · Oct 30, 2009, 01:37 AM

Dear Brother.....
I am so glad i found you here... I am in the same situation as you are in, except that i am 2 months ahead of you..... i am a Christian girl and i was/in love with a very sweet Hindu boy... Just about everything about me and him was perfect, except for faith......and i was struggling with the thought that i might be doing something wrong by being in love with a guy of a diffferent faith...... I prayed a lot!.... He and I met a whole lot of Christian elders to seek counselling, and everybody told me that it was a bad idea..... and then i started out on a mission to really ask the good Lord Himself, casue He can see the future, and he knows better that mortals... i prayed for months, all the while struggling with love and faith...

Over time, God showed me through a series of circumstances that his faith wil indeed be a problem for me, and He also gave me the strength to break up with Him.....

So i did break up with Him, having full faith and confidence that wherever God leads me next would be for good. Its almost 2 months now since i last saw my ex, and i do think of him every single day... but at least i am NOT crying over Him....Trust me.... i feel so much at peace now..... i do not where i would go next, but for now, i am learning to be quiet and cope with the loss, in which i think i am faring quiet well.....

now... my case might not be the same for you.... i would strongly advice you to pray abt it.... meet real pastors and elders who can counsel you both in person.. look at what they have to say.... seeking counsel in person is a much better way that over net, cause you let the world see you both in a neutral light.....

Another point is - You're in love... so all you see might be silver and gold.. So wait... watch, pray abt it..... pray real hard, and seek counsel.... God will surely help u decide.

God bless you my dear.
Praise Him at all times.

talaniman · Oct 30, 2009, 05:46 AM

I think it depends on how things go after you get back to her and can actually see how the relationship develops and how you both deal with the differences together. Both your religions have rules, and traditions, and how you honor each other, and your families, is what will define success, or failure.

A bit soon to tell, given the distance so how long does this distance keep you physically apart?

Ithappenstoall · Oct 30, 2009, 05:54 AM

Tal : Distance is keeping us apart for a year and half . But I am thinking about this now because what if all the effort we put in will end at nothing. Like I said this is the only problem the rest is really great . We even got use to coping with the long distance .

Ithappenstoall · Oct 30, 2009, 05:56 AM

Carla : I see what you mean, and have thought about this. Just the fact of losing her right now and even imagining her trying to move is a killer in my head. It saddens me that this would be the reason to be apart, even if if you know that you both complement one another so well

And another thing, can you give me more info about your relationship (if you dont mind me asking), how long have you been with me , where ... etc

THANK YOU

Ithappenstoall · Oct 30, 2009, 08:01 AM

J_9 : I am not saying that I am both, just stating the fact that I am dating a Muslim women , but my background is that that I am from Christian faith

talaniman · Oct 30, 2009, 02:27 PM

I think I would for now deal with the relationship, and not what could happen later. I have seen distance stop a lot of relationships from growing.

At least then you can be learning from each other, and discussing some of the problems you face down the road, and hopefully have a strategy to deal with them.

There are always obstacles that couples face when they assume a common path, to a shared goal.



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