im in love with two men

I know the situation is a pretty messed up one, but I needed to get perfect strangers oppinions because i know that they will be honest.( no reason to lie to someone you dont know nor will ever know)

I left my husband in July 2011. He is the father of my beautiful baby girl and was my bestfriend long before we ever thought of being together... we was only married for a year before we split up... now that i look back at it i feal i was wrong for leaving him... i left him in texas and came back to indiana. our fight was dumb over nothing really... just money problems and because i wanted to go to a babyshower and him stay home with our daughter. The screaming and yelling infront of our daughter was not healthy for her so i packed my car and stayed with my aunt down the road for the night and then we left for indiana first thing in the morning.

a month after returning to indiana i met my boyfriend now. he was responsible fun not as attracting as my husband but not ugly either... he is kind and gental and good to my baby. the only problem is hes not my husband. I didnt want to find someone but you cant really help when that happens. I do love him how could i not he is everything ive wanted in a man.
I feal like i didnt give myself time to heal over the husband, and i cant quit thinking about him and crying over him but how could i hurt someone that is so good. I dont know what to do???? im dieing inside, probably the worst pain ever. could someone please help me... do i go through with the divorce and try to put the pain behind me or hurt a good man??