i just turned 20 my girlfriend just turned 16 i really need to know how we can get married as her parents have already stated they do not approve of us being togeather and would not approve a wedding. we are deeply in love and i dont see this fair that if your both over 18 one can be 19 one can be 79 and no one can do anything about it but our 3 1/2 years appart right now is causing a problem!! i need to find some kind of a loophole that will allow us to get married in our state of Wyoming without having to drive to MS (the only state this can be done parent free at 16) i really need some help i love her with all my heart and we really want this to go through but so far the parents are winning. please help.

Altenweg

Wait, wait, wait. Although 4 years doesn't seem like a big deal when someone is 26 and their loved one is 30, at the age of 16 and 20 it is a huge gap. You are an adult, she is still a child. As the adult you have to be the mature one. Personally I don't even think you should be dating her, much less marrying her, but that's another post.

If you love her then wait for her, if she loves you she'll wait too. There is nothing to be gained from getting married right now, the only thing it will accomplish is the alienation of her parents. You won't outgrow the love you have, if it's really there, and you can get married in a few years from now (preferably 8) and still have a long happy life together. What's the hurry?

My husband and I met when we were both 19, we dated for 5 years before we got married, and we are still married today. Wait, let her grow up a bit before you take a step as big as this. She's in love with the idea of being in love, and she's not old enough to know the difference, you are.