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KTM · Nov 17, 2007, 05:57 PM

OK I'm going to make this as short as possible, I've been married for 4 years, every friend that I seem to have since we've been married, my husband thinks I'm messing with them, it does't matter what sex they are... and like a good wife I would stop hanging out with them. My husband thinks I'm cheating on him because of this one guy I use to hang out with that I met at work, I introduced him to my husband, but yet my husaband though I was messing with him, that's when it all started so I stopped talking to him too... now I find myself alone in a house with my three year old, I do nothing all day but clean that house, and watch TV, when I work I have to be at home on time or else he calls me on my cell phone asking me were I'm at?. because I have on one to really talk to I call him on his cell phone but the conversation is always short, cause there's not much he wants to say, today he started aurging about the pass as he usually does and make it seem as if it's all my fault all of this is happening, he says he loves me everyday but yet he treats me like this, he also has a really BAD anger problem in which I'm scared of... what should we do to help our marriage? Or what should I do to fix this, since this is my fault...

ChihuahuaMomma · Nov 17, 2007, 06:03 PM

I would suggest marriage counseling. I, myself, am not a marriage counselor. But it sounds like he has had trust issues in the past and he's bringing that in your marriage. I would highly suggest speaking with someone that can help solve this problem. The two of you.

KTM · Nov 17, 2007, 08:25 PM

Counseling seems like a great idea, but ever time that comes up we end up talking about our problems together and finding our own solution and then in the end everything is fine we both always agree to start over, start fresh forget about the pass... but then the next week it comes up again, once something in the house pisses him off it like everything comes out that he hates about it, and it seems that he hates everything about me, I can try counseling but I really hope it works... being confined in your own home and still being accused of messing with people something isn't right there... His last relationship two girlfriends before me really messed him up I know that for a fact but I shouldn't have to pay for that...

ChihuahuaMomma · Nov 17, 2007, 08:37 PM

You're right, you should not have to pay for that... I am not suggesting counseling just to SOLVE or temporary solve your problems.. I suggest counseling to find the reason for your disagreements, his insecurities, yours, and just all around relationship health.

JoeCanada76 · Nov 17, 2007, 10:14 PM

Too me it sounds like a guilty concience on your husbands part. The thing is he is trying to put all the blame and accusing you of doing things. Maybe it is him that is cheating? As far as the anger and control issue this is not good for you to be isolated and he has no right to tell you to stop seeing friends. Like a good wife? Well maybe you need to tell him that your not doing anything wrong and that you need friends and to stop putting all the blame on you. I will also point out that maybe there is a lot of tension because he is the one supporting the family and your at home. This can cause couples to fight depending on how well you work together. As the above poster suggested when things start going down the wrong path and there is a break down of communication that is when counseling is a must. If he refuses or does not think it is necessary you need to start going on your own and they will be able to help you open up and guide you into helping yourself in this situation and suggestions on what is the best next step.