Hi

My husband is having an affair with his Thai colleague that started with MSN chat & SMSes at work and till late night at home. It has been almost a year now. They have been meeting frequently through Business trips and planned overseas vacations together openly. Despite my many attempts to talk and sort things with him, he claim that he is unhappy with me and wanted a divorce.

Reason being he said he had tried to change me to who he want me to be but failed after 10 years of marriage. I am distorted to learn that he regard me as someone of no value to him as his expectations of me cannot be met: A degree qualification to match him, earn high income to stay in condominium (he earn 3.5 times higher than me), driving licence to take over his driving, etc. Sharing of work stress and personal feelings with him turns out to be only complaints to him.

I believe those are excuses as he is having affair and probably found pleasure in sex with her. We are not active in sex life and have no kids as he claim he don't want to take care of kids since after married. And now, is my fault for not having kids despite trying for started trying 2 yrs back (we are not in our late 30s)

bushg

Take his A$$ to court take 1/2 and go on your merry way . Then he can change her believe me when he gets her the same things will happen to her, maybe not right away but eventually. Cut your losses and go, and thank God you do not have children. Go be happy, be free. You know in your heart that he does not make you happy and money is not worth staying with him . peace

shygrneyzs

You deserve so much better than what you are getting from your husband. Give him the divorce, Tell him you couldn't change him into what you wanted either. Someone honest and caring, someone who loved you just for everything you are and not just for someone he thought he could do the extreme makeover thing.

Why in the world do people get married hoping to change someone over to their ideal model? If the person is not enough in the beginning, then they should do the hononrable thing and leave that person alone! Why go ahead and ruin a person's life?

The chances are quite high that your philandering husband will wind up the same way the seond time around. Get rid of him, be glad of it, get back into your life, and never look back. Make sure you have the best attorney you can afford, so that you do not get stepped on or lose out on what you have worked hard for.

Good luck to you!