I need help! I need to know if I am being rediculous for worrying about this or if I have any real concerns...

I know that I am a jealous person by nature...I love my husband, and don't like him getting close with other women. He does have a few female friends from before we became married (about one year ago) and I am fine with them, because he includes me now in their relationship...I am worried about a present situation though.

My husband has a female friend who is single and 8 years younger than him. He texts her and sees her often at work. Lately they have been hanging out just the two of them, and when I told my husband that it bothered me, he was upset. He said that he saw her as a friend, and nothing more, and that I was being rediculous for worrying about something like that. I asked him to only see her on a professional level, and stop hanging out with her outside of work, and he became very upset. He couldn't believe that I would try to tell him who to hang out with.

Needless to say, he won the argument because he made me feel untrusting and controlling about his relationship with this girl. I try not to let them hanging out bother me, but it does. I also feel like he's acting differently lately...more distant with me...he says that's all in my head, and that I'm being silly. I feel like that if this relationship continues, that sooner or later it will not be just a "friendly" get-together. Am I crazy for thinking that this girl is going to fall for my husband? My husband said that if he noticed her acting in a "more than friend" way he would re-evaluate the friendship at that time, but honestly, unless she threw herself on him, I don't think he would be able to tell the difference.

Please help-am I overreacting and just being a selfish wife?

Altenweg

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stephstylist

i feel that if he is married he dosn't need to be texting or calling or any of that. leave work at the office and take care of home like a man

Emmasmommy

I have personally been in this type of situation. You should go with your gut feelings as they are usually correct. Your husband is obviously crossing the line, and by becoming defensive, he looks guilty, perhaps of more than an emotional affair. You should confront him and if he refuses to accommodate your request that he behave like a loving husband, I'm afraid he is probably having a full-blown affair with this woman. But if he is, the harsh reality will not change because you want it to. Be strong and do what is best for you, as it is apparent you cannot count on your husband.

The bottom line is you deserve more than drama and toxic relationships. If you have to leave this situation, do it for yourself. It sounds to me like you will be much better off in the long run.