Well, here goes. My husband and I have been married for 17 years and have a ten-year-old son. For about 14 of those years, my husband has had substance abuse problems. We have fought many times and a few of those times, I left, sometimes with the help of police officers. About two years ago, my husband decided to get clean and sober and he was doing a good job of it - two years sober. I just could not get over my anger over all those years of abuse and I constantly pushed him away, although we did have sex about once a week. I absolutely dreaded it and told him I thought the marriage was over. Late last year, we decided to work on things and even started to see a councelor. I thought we were headed in the right direction but then found out he was having on-line relationships with several women, one in particular, I found love letters and gifts from her. He was always sneaking texts to her but I never really gave it much thought - I just assumed he was talking to ojne of his AA friends. No. He was not. In her letters to him, she said she loved him and that they were going to be together. Instead of throwing her cards out, he put them in the trunk of his car, unopened. I found them there. Now he says he does not text anyone, loves me but is not in love with me, wanted a divorce and now appears he does not. I am stuck in this relationship.