Last September my husband and I went to see a social worker about taking his ex to court for custody of his children. He found out that he could take them that day if he wanted to. So we drove home and he went and picked up his kids and we went from a family of two with a brand new baby to a family of five with two boys aged 4 and 5. He never consulted with me about it. He never asked how I felt and how we could make it easier for me to deal with. I had hardly ever seen these kids before that and all of the sudden they were living with me. We couldn't even afford to have these kids living with us so money is very tight now. I was so unprepared and I've had a very difficult time with the boys. I hate to say it, but I don't like them. I'm angry at my husband for what happened. The worst thing about it is that I can't talk to him about how I feel. I try to tell him that I'm having a hard time and he gets very upset, telling me that I'm being selfish and that I'm the problem. I can't take it anymore. How do I discuss this with him? If we don't fix things soon, I think I'm going to have to leave. I've been so unhappy and angry. I don't know what to do. How do I talk about how I feel if he doesn't want to listen??

vlee

You are searching for help, and that is all that matters. Keep working, don't throw in the towel. You may have to be the force that drives this whole family in the same direction for a bit, but you will all benefit from becoming a team. Good luck to you all.

kp2171

well... also, your husband does need to make sure that his kids respect you and you both need a united stand on how the house is run and what kind of behavior is respectful and what is not acceptable.