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    Flaminangel74 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 9, 2008, 02:20 PM
    Husband Always accusing me of cheating!
    My husband is always accusing me of cheating with almost anyone, he is verry jealous too. But the most discusting part about it is he accuses me of doing things with my own DAD. You know how sick that is I can't take this anymore. I love my husband and all but this is everyday. And he even gets into details did you like this did you like that... I can't even explain it I go through this everyday, I can't do anything when my husband isint home I can't shower can't go on the PC, he checks my contacts on my cell who I call and all, I can't go anywher ebcuz if I do he will accuse me of cheating on him and will leave me... BUT when he goes somewhere without telling me like right now he is gone he just takes our car and leaves and I don't complain where he is or what he is doing because it won't do anygood. I really had enough but I can't leave him I love him plus I'm 5months pregnant and I see a counsler for depression.
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    Nov 9, 2008, 02:33 PM

    He is crazy, and needs to be locked up! Either stand up for yourself, or stop complaining.

    My wife would be beating my a$$ if I tried that BS!
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    Nov 9, 2008, 02:40 PM

    There are a lot of pieces to this question.

    First off, you're pregnant. Which means that you and he both should be minimizing as much stress as possible. I am four months pregnant and I know that when my husband and I bicker back and forth, it literally hurts my stomach. It effects me heart beat and my breathing- which directly effect my child. He should lay off hounding you especially while you are with child.

    Hopefully your counselor knows your situation and can offer more productive advice. Always be honest and open with your counselor and if you feel as though you might benefit more from another professional, then don't hesitate to meet and speak with others.

    Jealousy is a tricky thing. Couples make jokes of it sometimes for a couple reasons: to alleviate insecurity, to show affection and interest in the other and sometimes just simply to start an argument back into conversation about the relationship. It's hard to guess the reasons behind his behavior. It could be a number of things...

    He might be having trouble with is own attraction towards people and projecting it upon you in order to talk about it.
    He might be more insecure because you are pregnant and many people are attracted to pregnant women- he might be uncomfortable with this.
    He might feel that he doesn't know how to really treat you well and he may be exploring these thoughts aloud by bringing up how your father treats you.
    He may just love you immensely and this is one of the only ways he knows to show it.

    We teach our husbands how to behave. They are like children (as we all are) and we all learn slow when it comes to changing patterns we have consistently had for a long time. Practice being positive (with yourself first and foremost). Depression is hard and sometimes just focusing on simple positive thinking can help an hour of stress. It's the hours that we make ourselves go through, so take it one at a time. Don't look at the eggshells (especially when he's not home). Enjoy your time alone. Rest. Fantasize about your new child. And the new woman you are about to become. This is a very exciting time in life. It is for him too. Focus on the directions you want to go.

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