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Oh my god. First of all, I wasn't sure if this is the right category to post my dilema, but I'm soooo glad I found this website.
Anyway I have a major crush on my husbands friend. I can't stop thinking of him. I go to the store hoping to run into him.
I know I told myself a million times that this is bad. Real Bad. But I'm so overwhelmed with feeling for this guy, it's making me sick.
I feel like a horrible, aweful, wicked person. I love my husband to death, I would never cheat on him, ever. We have a wonderful connection and relationship. And my husband is the best thing any of you guys could ever imagine. He has me on a pedestal. He treats me like I'm his queen. He works hard so I don't have too. He cleans, he cooks, he changes pampers, and does the dishes. Even serenades me with his guitar. He's my everything.
And what do I do to repay him. I crush on his friend.
What do I do? I can't help it.
It doesn't help either that his friend is always around. He works with my husband and they both hang out all the time. We have get togethers at my house with a lot of friends and we when me and him carry a conversation we learn more and more that we have so much in common. Tons of stuff we've done and things we like and don't like. So now he brings over movies he knows I'll like. Things like that. Real friendly guy.
When I go to return them or anything else he has lent us. He answers the door without his shirt. Real casual, like if I'm family. And he is a real stud muffin. Great shape and beautiful muscles.
Oh my god, I'm so horrible.
Does anyone know what to do? What can I do?
This is aweful.
I feel like #@$!
I love my husband, how do I stop this?
it is realy not easy
but the good thing that u know that it is wrong .
ill tell u what u have to do and of course that is my opnion.
first u have to look what is the bad things in your hasbend friend and think that u live on it.
ask yourself why he is not married yet and why u like him .
u have to see him in bad way and time will be with you and will save your family.
if there is poison so sweet are u going to eat it, what ever his test u will not eat it ,think that u r going to ditsroy your life and your family life if u did this bad thing.
Just ask yourself if loosing your wonderful husband is worth the risk of persuing this crush. Is the pain that would would cause him worth a fling?
Not only would it ruin your marriage, it would also ruin thier friendship.
If your husband is all these wonderful things you say he is, why risk that for a physical attraction?
Avoid him as much as possible
Let your husband return things to him
Remember you have a husband at home who loves you and cares for you
Just stay away
It will only cause problems if you keep thinking about him It will start to affect your marriage
so just stay away
How do I stay away if he's always around with my husband. I cook for these guys. I pick up their mail when they're at work. We're like a big family.
He was engaged to be married but his girlfriend broke up with him, cause they live in separate states.
He focuses only on hobbies, working out, us, and church now.
Very religious guy. Good head on his shoulders.
He's like a younger version of my husband.
I'm starting to think that's what the problem is.
I would never pursue him. I just want to stop crushing on him. It makes me feel so unworthy. Depressing. guilty. This sucks, cause I love my husband.
Is this normal?! Do other people go through this?, And just not say so.
I think everybody does this one time in their relationship
the key is not to act upon it
there has to be something about him that annoys you find it and think about it when you start to think about this guy
even if it something simple like his nose is to big something has to annoy you
That makes me laugh. Thanks for making me smile.
Don't know if that'll work but I'll try to think of something annoyingly( is that a word) wrong with him.
How's this... Is it because you are keeping it a secret that it's so overwhelming? Why don't you tell your hubby about your crush. Your being open and honest and he might already know if he knows you well enough. I wouldn't keep this from the man I love just because I feel silly. I would probably expect some awkward moments and possibly some teasing but it will be out there and you'll be better able to deal with it when it's not a secret. Maybe your crushing cause you can't have him either... We always want what we can't have. Just some food for thought ... honesty is the best policy