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I am 15 and i am in love. i know not many people think that you can be in love at this age, but i am and i kind of want to get married and so does he. he is however 17 two years older and well i dont know how to ask my mom for her permission and i wouldnt get married right away i would at least wait until i was 17 but even then i would need her permission and well i dont know what to do.
Remember if you plan on getting married, it will be married till you are 80 or 90, so if you are really in love, you will still be in love at 18 after you finish high school. And maybe even 22 when you get out of college and can get a better job to help a new family.
Like stated above, if its true love, you'll still be in love at age 18, 20, 24, etc.----when you are more financially stable.
One of my close friends who had been dating this guy since 6th grade got married at age 18. They were very much in love, however, a year and a half later they filed for divorce all because of financial problems. My point is love isn't always enough. Money problems put a LOT of stress on a marriage, so if you really want your relationship to last I would wait until your older. Honestly, what bad can come from pushing the wedding back a few years? You'll just have more time to get to know him and see if this is a decision you want to make for the rest of your life.
I hear you, you're in love and want to get married but are unsure how to ask your mom. You could just come out and ask her! My question to you though is why you're having such a hard time asking her. You can probably predict what she'll say or think, huh? I also would like to know WHY you want to get married. Love is great, but it does not make a marriage - I learned the hard way.
I got married when I was 28 and it only lasted two years. I call it my practice marriage and I learned a lot!!! Now I'm married to a wonderful, wonderful man and am still learning a lot at age 35! Here's some of what I've learned: you love him for all he is AND all he is NOT and vice-versa, you give 100% and he gives 100% (not 50/50), you turn TO each other when problems arise not AWAY from each other (this can be tough when you're pissed and want to complain to friends or family), you are committed to each other in such a way that disagreements, problems, issues, etc. are just pebbles on the road to your golden years (you can be fighting but all the while KNOW you'll still be together forever). Can you rationally discuss difficulties rather than fight? Are you your own person and he his own person or is there a type of co-dependency? How would you handle it if one day he comes home at 4 a.m. drunk? Would he be lovingly willing to help do the dishes or change pampers? What if one of you loses a job and the other is left with all the bills for 3 months or more - how would you both handle it?
These are just a few lessons I've learned and questions you may want to ask yourself. There are also lots of books full of questions to answer and discuss with your partner before getting married. I propose you check 'em out and get him involved.
My friend got married as a teen, and she and her husband have had several close calls; she once told me when we were in our 20s that she sometimes wished she was single so that she could enjoy her 20s as I had been doing. You have absolutely no way of knowing what will be happening 5, 10, 15 years, but I do think you're wise enough to know what to do here. Remember, the days of "get married and have kids" are no longer. There are so many options... look at the new version of The Game of LIFE called Twists and Turns , you have 4 directions from which to choose!
P.S. I think it's great that you're asking others for advice and hopefully getting the full picture. By the way, you mentioned you "kind of" want to get married. Maybe you guys can do a promise ring and if at 18 if you're still interested in marriage, THEN get engaged with another year to plan. After all, what's the hurry? You'd still have to find a place to live and a way to support yourselves. Good luck and let us know what you decide.
I agree with the promise ring idea!! 15 is too young. I got married at 20 and people think I'm crazy for that... wait until your atleast 18 or 19 and then revisit the idea, because if you think about it, if this is true love you have lots of time to think about it right.
thanks for the great advice. ur right it=f it is true love there is no reason to rush. i guess i alreay knew that and needed to hear it from someone else. thanks again.!!
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