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I don't know why caste matters much more to them than their kids :( going through very hard time please some one help me :(

I know that you live in a culture that values the order that consent from parents for marriage brings and it often conflicts with what the younger people want. So it would help greatly to have some details such as age and educational, and employment goals of you, and your intended. Without it, we cannot see a way forward, or offer suggestions.

Caste means a lot to them because that is the culture and life they were taught, position and status in life is important and honor and respect of culture is more important than personal feelings. In older society it would have been unheard of for a young person to disobey a parent, and could mean being exiled from family or even death.

So even the fact you are allowed to challenge it, shows society is slowly changing.

But how do you tell or talk to someone to tell them that every core value that they were taught by their parents and their parents parent is wrong, How do you tell them that the structure of society that controls who you are in society is not to be respected.

And if that caste involves religion it gets even harder since it is then not just culture but reaching to their very souls.

How you talk to them will or can depend on your relationship with them or if they will even discuss it at all.