How to make my children agreed for my second marriage

Wondergirl · Jun 22, 2012, 12:02 AM

Your son is going off to university and into his future. Your daughter's opinion would matter more in a sense because she is still at home. What does she think about your remarrying? What does your son think? Have they met this woman?

rasingh · Jun 22, 2012, 12:07 AM

Personally I have not disclosed my desire for second marriage to my son but my daughter know it her opining is what ever his brother opinion that will be her opinion she said me when asked her opinion

Wondergirl · Jun 22, 2012, 12:16 AM

Does your son know the woman at all? Have you ever suggested to him that you might remarry someday, that you are lonely and still have many years ahead, that once your two children leave for university and careers/marriage, a good wife for you would be nice.

joypulv · Jun 22, 2012, 12:39 AM

I'm curious why you are asking how to 'convince' your son when you haven't even mentioned it to him yet? Has he said things in the last 2 years that imply that he thinks you should never remarry? Even if he has, time does change feelings such as that, and maybe he is willing to accept the idea now. I'm sure he knows how much you loved your wife. But he also needs to know that 40 is not ancient and in fact is quite young, and that you would like to have someone without abandoning your good memories. Tell him! You were able to ask your 12 year old, so I'm sure you can do this tenderly. It's a nice gesture to ask him but you don't really need to; you can tell him and ask how he feels.

rasingh · Jun 22, 2012, 02:00 AM

Thank you for your reply. I never asked my son about my marriage but my old mother asked where he show resentment. Ok I will try to talk to him on this subject because I had suffered lot but now don't want to loose my family

Fr_Chuck · Jun 22, 2012, 05:43 AM

First your marriage will never be problem free, Also sorry to be rude, but your children will grow up and move out and have their own husband and wife latter. Long term you will be alone if you don't find a new life partner and marry.

Kids often have selfish reasons for not wanting a dad to remarry to "replace mom" So at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happen, and then tell them what you are going to do, and try to make them understand.

Getting their "permission" is like giving them control of your life and they will see this as a way or reason to try to control you more latter.

How to make my children agreed for my second marriage

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