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I'm married and not really attracted to my husband anymore. I care for him but I don't feel like I'm in love with him anymore. I don't want to hurt his feelings and I have been faithful our entire marriage and even when we dated for 6 years. For 3 years I have had this crush on this younger guy and I want to be around him or talk to him all the time. I hate feeling this way but I just can't seem to shake it...like eventually we're supposed to be together. He lives far away so I hardly ever see him. We communicate occasionally on facebook messages and that is all. I found out recently, when I spent some time with him and his friend (from his friend) that he would consider sleeping with me if I wasn't married which really surprised me because I thought I was too old for him even to consider that. I really wish I could just be friends with him, but everytime I think of him I get HUGE butterflies. I really feel like I'm in love with this guy, which is absolutely ridiculous. And it's not like he is overly attractive in anyway, my friends don't understand my crush and neither does my mom or my husband. My husband thinks the crush is over and doesn't know how strong my feelings are. I feel like maybe a kiss would put everything into perspective for me and then I can get on with my marriage. HELP!
Talaniman.........yes I should know what comes first and I'm feeling right now that my husband does not....which is very disturbing to me. That's the way it should be. I really don't know what happened and hopefully I can get it back, if I figure out that he is the best person for me. I believe in a marriage each person should bring out the best in each other. I don't feel this is happening. I think a break apart from each other is a good idea. I will be talking to my psychologist about this.
well then maybe you need to see whos more important take a vacation alone and when you come home see who you love more and who you really need to be with good luck sweetie
Your feelings are gone, so in the midst of some bad timing you come clean and he goes off. What a mess, you get help, but away from each other. When a bad situation gets as toxic as yours, somebody has to leave.
Your feelings are gone, so in the midst of some bad timing you come clean and he goes off. What a mess, you get help, but away from each other. When a bad situation gets as toxic as yours, somebody has to leave.
Toxic wow.....does it really sound that bad? My psychologist appointment isn't until Feb.26th and I'm struggling with what to do about my recent dilema. My husband has given me an ultimatum. He's in Ontario flying and has two days off between his flying blocks and says he won't come home until I get rid of a photo album I have on facebook. They are concert pictures of the "crush". I told him he doesn't have to go on there and look at them and that he's being ridiculous. I have a few photo albums of friends and family and different events I've been to and it's more for friends to see them than me. I don't even go on to look at them for myself. In a brief phone call then text messages I said again I wouldn't remove the album and he said "See you whenever". I replied that I would like him to come home so we could work on fixing things. It's very hard to fix things when someone stays away. He replied with "never". I think he is being very stubborn and is determined to get his own way. I'm not sure but I guess I usually give in to make things liveable. I feel aweful and feel like it's all my fault. Am I doing the right thing by standing up for what I believe? I'm really confused.
I'm married and not really attracted to my husband anymore. I care for him but I don't feel like I'm in love with him anymore. I don't want to hurt his feelings and I have been faithful our entire marriage and even when we dated for 6 years. For 3 years I have had this crush on this younger guy and I want to be around him or talk to him all the time. I hate feeling this way but I just can't seem to shake it...like eventually we're supposed to be together. He lives far away so I hardly ever see him. We communicate occasionally on facebook messages and that is all. I found out recently, when I spent some time with him and his friend (from his friend) that he would consider sleeping with me if I wasn't married which really surprised me because I thought I was too old for him even to consider that. I really wish I could just be friends with him, but everytime I think of him I get HUGE butterflies. I really feel like I'm in love with this guy, which is absolutely ridiculous. And it's not like he is overly attractive in anyway, my friends don't understand my crush and neither does my mom or my husband. My husband thinks the crush is over and doesn't know how strong my feelings are. I feel like maybe a kiss would put everything into perspective for me and then I can get on with my marriage. HELP!
It really doesn't matter what the age...............but..Look into His eyes............when you think of moving forward.............Look deeply into his eyes.....where the truth lies.........
good luck
If you are not attracted to your husband, and you were not physically attracted to him also, what made you stay with him all these years? The way I see it, he is a controlling, manipulative, selfish and childish man.
Why has he not come home to face this family crisis? (idk, I'm asking??) Does he have something to hide???
If you want to leave your husband, do it, but not because of your "friend". If you can find stability and happiness without your husband in you and your children's lives, find it. Only do it for you and your children, not for your "friend".
I get the impression the friend might be an excuse/scapegoat to your freedom.
The attention you give another in a public forum, is unacceptable behavior in my book, and would cause a lot of hurt, that can easily turn to anger, if it were done by my life partner, to me.
hey
the best way to cut this off is by taking your husband out and if you are a catholic take him to the church and tell him how you feel about this guy.Its not right for you to kiss that crush.Its going to go way ahead and will cause problems in your marriage.Remember the commitments you both took during your marriage.If your huband love you alot and you do loved him once upon a time, then he will understand you and stand by you in this problem of your.this builds and strengthens your relationship with your husband.if he really loves you and keeping in mind the marriage commitments he will stand by you.
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