Me and my boyfriend have been together for 18 months and are ready to get married. We have picked a date that we want and everything. The thing is I dont know how to tell my parents. Me and him are both young, me 16 and him almost 18(dont say "you are to young to know what love is" I hear it enough and I know I am old enough to know. My aunt and uncle have been together since 7th grade and have three girls and have adopted my little brother) My mother does not care for him, but my father loves him and know that he will make me happy. So please give me some advice of what to do.

justcurious55

my advice, if you guys are so in love wait to get married. there should be no rush. if you guys can't wait a little longer to get married you'll never suurvive being married.

lovingLynn

we are going to wait till I am out of college at age 22. Thats the date we picked. We are not really rushing anything, I just thought that my parents would like to know.

Altenweg

I deleted my post when I saw that you were waiting until after college. Your original post wasn't clear, it sounded like you were getting married now, at the age of 16. I answer so many posts from 16 year olds wanting to get married, wanting to have a baby, it's never ending and very frustrating. You and I posted at the same time, when I read that you are waiting I deleted my post because I realized that you were actually being smart about this.

Okay, now that I've said that, why doesn't your mom like him, do their personalities clash or is it something he's done? Considering the fact that you aren't rushing into marriage I can't see why your parents would be upset.

lovingLynn

she says he isnt good enough for me. I have had a few boyfriends and she has only liked one, who is still my best friend. He can be a little bit of a smart butt at times, but has gotten a lot better about it. She has messed up a lot of things, been married twice an engaged about 4 times. She doesnt want that for me. But other then me and Steven she doesnt care. A few months back I complained of chest pains and difficulty breathing and she did nothing but go see her boyfriend, leaving me alone.

Altenweg

Well it sounds like she's just concerned, but if he hasn't given her an actual reason to dislike him then there should be no reason why she does. You are 16 now, and you're parents still have allot to say about the things you do and who you see, but since you are waiting until you are 22 to get married they won't have allot to say about it then. You have 6 years to show your mom what a good guy he is, maybe she will, maybe she won't, in the end it's your life not hers.

Honey, the fact is that you don't have to have their permission when you are 22, but right now you do, so don't rock the boat. Maybe it's better to wait and tell them when it's closer to the date. It's up to you, you know them better than we do.

Good Luck.

Fr_Chuck

Yes, why even tell them, just let it wait till you are latter, if at 18 you are still together, make it public and official.

lovingLynn

yes I know. I think she dislikes him because he reminds her a lot of her exhusband/ my father. I dont see why she would get mad about that though. She loved my father, at one time, and he still loves her; but he wants her to be happy so he doesnt say anything.

N0help4u

According to your first post here a couple weeks ago you either need to tell your parents within the next few weeks or they will see for themselves shortly after if you do not.

Fr_Chuck

You know I tried to be nice and say something to be supportive, but the more I have thought about it today, if you want to be an adult and act like an adult ( if you beleive you are in love ** sorry you don't even know what love really is at 16 no matter what you think**)

But if you beleve you are old enough, then you have to be grown up enough to face your fears and deal with what happens when you make your own choices