How can I show him how much I love him

Scared_and_Confused · Apr 6, 2007, 07:12 PM

We're not married (yet) but I did not know where else to post. We are engaged

Well my guy has been there for me through it all! He is sooo sweet, no matter how badly I screw up with things he's always there to make me smile. I just recently lost my job and he has gotten a second job, no matter how much I opposed to it! He makes enough to support us with his first job, but said he wanted to have another job so he can buy me nice things. He also bought us a house. I kept trying so hard to talk him out of it but he wont listen! Well now he is working two jobs (dont worry I will be getting a job soon). He will go above and beyond for me and I dont know how I got such a great man to be with me. I feel I do not deserve him. Now I want to find a way to show him how much I appreciate him and love him with all my heart. He is so hard to figure out what to do or get him. For Christmas, Valentines Day, and our anniversary, I ask him what he wants and says "just you". Which is sweet and all, but it doesn't help me figure out what to give him or do for him to show how much I love him??? I wanna do something more than buy sexy lingerie or make him his favorite meal, I want to do something that will surprise him and show him how much I love him. Any suggestions??

ordinaryguy · Apr 10, 2007, 04:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Scared_and_Confused

I dont know how I got such a great man to be with me. I feel I do not deserve him.

This is a big red flag. You need to do whatever it takes to get beyond this feeling of inadequacy--counselling, therapy, or just good old-fashioned thinking. Getting beyond this feeling within yourself will do more for the health and vitality of your relationship than all of the presents you could ever buy him. Long term love has to be something that grows between equals, and if you are constantly feeling inferior it will poison the well that you both drink from. It may sound paradoxical, but the best gift you can give him is your own healthy self-esteem.

Becca1025 · Apr 10, 2007, 09:00 AM

Ordinaryguy no I did not mean litterally. I dont feel "Omg I just dont deserve him, he's just too good for me" and rip my hair out about it. I seriously DO NOT feel like that. I just feel that he is a fantastic guy and that I am very lucky to have found him. I probably should not have worded it like I did. I probably should've put that I do not know where I found this amazing guy. I do not feel inferior to him. With him I just feel his love and his happiness all the time. How could I feel inferior to him, I wear the pants in this relationship!

JK.

Becca1025 · Apr 10, 2007, 10:59 AM

Ordinaryguy, I'll try that. Thank you for your posts

NowWhat · Apr 10, 2007, 12:38 PM

You have to love hard working men. I have one. I know you want to make a grand gesture and I think that is great. But, if it is all right, can I suggest things you can do any time?
Try fixing his lunch for him to take with him. Leave a love note for him to find. You could leave him notes in the bathroom. I would leave just an "I love you" note on the toilet paper because I was sure he wouldn't miss it.
Make sure things look nice when he gets home from work. The house smells nice. Little, simple things like that make a huge difference.
Make a CD with his favorite music so he can listen to it on his way to work.
Little things go a long way.
And no matter what you do, do it with love - it will show through



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