Lately I just feel like my husband really doesn't care about me anymore....we have been together for a long time and I know things change a lot and all the romance and stuff fades off but it really sucks to feel like I do. I keep telling him we need to have a date night atleast a couple times a month but he never plans anything...we hang out with his friends a lot especially on the weekend and I am tired of feeling like he doesn't want to spend time with just me. He doesn't treat me bad otherwise but I just don't know what else to do and frankly I am tired of trying...I have mentioned a marriage counselor but he doesn't seem interested. If anyone has any advice please help!!!

suddenImpact

I know exactly how you feel. Although I'm not married, I've been with my g/f for 4 1/2 years, and thats the way it is with us. She schedules her work every week and can choose what days she wants off. She will never schedule a day off that I have off, so we pretty much never see each other. I wish I knew some way to help!

ISneezeFunny

instead of wanting the other person to plan something, be assertive. YOU plan something.

you too suddenImpact. plan a night out or a day trip to a zoo, museum, downtown, and plan an entire day out. dinner/dessert included. afterwards, if you wish, book a hotel room and go all out.

after planning, tell your significant other, HEY. KEEP THIS DAY FREE...ALL DAY.

if they don't want to, then you know there's a problem somewhere...

suddenImpact

I actually have tried something like that. I got tickets for a movie I knew she wanted to see, took her out to a nice restaurant for dinner, got us a hotel room for the night away from everyone.

I told her almost a month in advance, that I had "something" planned for that night. Well someone called into her work that night, so they called her, she of course said "Yea its no problem, I can come in".

ISneezeFunny

did she even ask you if it was ok...? was it an emergency at work...? did she talk to you afterwards/apologized about the night?

...it may be a warning flag.

George_1950

You should plan something he is interested in, a concert, play, movie; and dinner. He if refuses, tell him it's time for a trial separation of 90 days, and then a reassessment of where the relationship is going.

suddenImpact

No, it was no emergency, she didn't ask if it was ok, she just told me that she was going to work....never apologized or anything, she just said well we can reschedule whatever you had planned.

talaniman

Where do you work at and do you like it????? Do you have kids and how old are you?????
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search....archid=2210371

suddenImpact

I do billing and customer service, and I love my job. We have a 5 month old daughter and I'm 24