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Ex-lover threatening to tell all unless I start up affair again.
I am married with 2 sons, I had an affair but have ended it as I lrealised I truley love my husband and children. I am very happy. For the last few weeks my ex-lover has been threatening to tell all unless I meet with him.
I have ignored his texts, phone calls and emails and know this is the right thing to do but he threatens me that he will tell my husband. I am at my wits end, I cannot sleep, Ive been sick and I cant stop crying. My hubby knows Im not right. I am so scared that my husband will throw me out and take away my children.
I know what I did was wrong, I cant changed what has happened. I deserve this in some peoples eyes. What goers around comes around.
I am so happy with my hubby, I know what I did was wrong and have learned that lesson well. I dont want anything to come into my marriage and take away what now is so good.
I am so scared and dont know what to do. I cant tell anyone and just wish I had never had the affair. I dont want to loose my husband or my children.
Hey, you are not alone dont worry x x hugs x x
My personal thinking on this matter is - you should tell your husband. no matter what the consequences, the truth is better out in the open. (i have many issues i am dealing with myself and am just learning to unleash your demons)
When we cheat on our partners we have taken away their choice to stay in the relationship or not by not telling them.
He may choose to leave you.
He may choice to forgive you and stay.
Either way, it is better to give him the choice.
If your ex does get spiteful and tell your partner it may crush him. Its better to hear it from you babe..Once you tell him, a huge weight will lift off your shoulder. Whatever the outcome after you tell him is how things are meant to be. Make sure you tell him how much you love him and how very sory you are. Dont expect a good reaction (or any reaction) straight away. Give him time to digest it.
Unfortunalty in .life we all make decisions to do something that has the potential to harm someone we love...sometimes we must pay the concequences... Good luck with it babe...and remember, this is just my opinion ok x x x
Confessing to your husband seems to be the only option here, and in truth you should have told him anyway. It will sound a lot better coming from you than the man you had an affair with.
You husband may stay, or he may not.
If you make a mistake, you have to pay the consequences, that's life.
I agree with the above posts. Tell him, and beg for forgiveness. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Can I ask how long ago this affair ended and how long it was going on?
Tell this other guy that he doesn't need to waste his time because you are telling your husband because the secret is killing you. That you will be telling him how it has made you stronger realizing how much you really do love your husband.
Tell him to go find somebody that is free and single.
I am married with 2 sons, I had an affair but have ended it as I lrealised I truley love my husband and children. I am very happy. For the last few weeks my ex-lover has been threatening to tell all unless I meet with him.
I have ignored his texts, phone calls and emails and know this is the right thing to do but he threatens me that he will tell my husband. I am at my wits end, I cannot sleep, Ive been sick and I cant stop crying. My hubby knows Im not right. I am so scared that my husband will throw me out and take away my children.
I know what I did was wrong, I cant changed what has happened. I deserve this in some peoples eyes. What goers around comes around.
I am so happy with my hubby, I know what I did was wrong and have learned that lesson well. I dont want anything to come into my marriage and take away what now is so good.
I am so scared and dont know what to do. I cant tell anyone and just wish I had never had the affair. I dont want to loose my husband or my children.
If anyone has anyone advice, please.
WOW....you cheated then you realized you loved your husband.
Selfish....selfish...selfish
I bet you didnt even think about your kids did you?
No marriage can be so bad to do such an act, you might as well tell your husband and let him decide.....at this point its his desicion, not yours.
I guess I'd be the only one to say call his bluff at this point. IF you love your husband and he loves you and you are happily married than perhaps your husband need never know.
It was a huge mistake and I do not condone it, however, not every mistake can and has to lead to a broken marriage or leaving one totally destroyed.
Do what you think is right. Telling the truth is always the right answer, however, not everyone is strong enough to do that, strong enough to face the consequences, that is about the only thing you should not be ashamed of.
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