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Old May 2, 2007, 10:37 AM
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I dont know what to do

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Married 7 years - not the greatest.
Constant Pot Smoking
He was controlling, and made me feel guilty for doing things without him.
He has a horrible temper.
He never hit me but he scared me.
Converation skills are not the great for us.
We cannot have a productive conversation about us or our problems.
He gets mad and defensive.
I have cheated numerous times. (looking for attention I did not get at home)
Sex was minimal.
Kissing was minimal.

So I left numerous times but this time for 6 months.
Got my own apartment, leading my own life and having a hard time filing for divorce.
I feel bad for him
He is trying so hard to get me back.
He has quit smoking pot.
He is trying to be more romantic and loving and everything I asked for all along.

If he wasn't trying so hard, It would already be over.
We have a love of the outdoors in common.
I do love him.
I do not have romantic feelings for him anymore.

I have been seeing someone else.

Should I give my marriage another chance.
He is relentlessly pursuing me.
and I am going nuts trying to decide what to do about him.
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Old May 2, 2007, 11:46 AM   #2  
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Originally Posted by kornm02
Short Version
Married 7 years - not the greatest.
Constant Pot Smoking
He was controlling, and made me feel guilty for doing things without him.
He has a horrible temper.
He never hit me but he scared me.
Converation skills are not the great for us.
We cannot have a productive conversation about us or our problems.
He gets mad and defensive.
I have cheated numerous times. (looking for attention I did not get at home)
Sex was minimal.
Kissing was minimal.

So I left numerous times but this time for 6 months.
Got my own apartment, leading my own life and having a hard time filing for divorce.
I feel bad for him
He is trying so hard to get me back.
He has quit smoking pot.
He is trying to be more romantic and loving and everything I asked for all along.

If he wasn't trying so hard, It would already be over.
We have a love of the outdoors in common.
I do love him.
I do not have romantic feelings for him anymore.

I have been seeing someone else.

Should I give my marriage another chance.
He is relentlessly pursuing me.
and I am going nuts trying to decide what to do about him.
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The most important issue here is communicating with each other. If he is trying that hard to get you back then he must be willing to work hard with you on salvaging the marriage.
Keeping in mind that people don't really change that much in such a short time period. It is up to you if you are willing to accept him the way he is.
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Old May 2, 2007, 12:06 PM   #3  
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Married 7 years - not the greatest.
Constant Pot Smoking
He was controlling, and made me feel guilty for doing things without him.
He has a horrible temper.
He never hit me but he scared me.
Converation skills are not the great for us.
We cannot have a productive conversation about us or our problems.
He gets mad and defensive.
I have cheated numerous times. (looking for attention I did not get at home)
Sex was minimal.
Kissing was minimal.

So I left numerous times but this time for 6 months.
Got my own apartment, leading my own life and having a hard time filing for divorce.
I feel bad for him
He is trying so hard to get me back.
He has quit smoking pot.
He is trying to be more romantic and loving and everything I asked for all along.

If he wasn't trying so hard, It would already be over.
We have a love of the outdoors in common.
I do love him.
I do not have romantic feelings for him anymore.

I have been seeing someone else.

Should I give my marriage another chance.
He is relentlessly pursuing me.
and I am going nuts trying to decide what to do about him.
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