dog or husband

smoothy · Aug 16, 2012, 07:44 PM

Geeze....listen to yourself....lets reverse the roles and say its YOU that had the problem of the pet you hate....and he was ready to pick the dog over you. How does that sound?

See the problem here? Its a dog...it will be DEAD in the next 10-14 years.

DsprtCfsd · Aug 16, 2012, 07:56 PM

Your husband doesn't like dogs but "agreed" to getting one? He didn't want one in the first place and now you are upset that he wants it gone? Pets should be a mutual agreement between parents and not a pressured mutual agreement otherwise things like this happen. Mother and daughter are attached and he wants the dog gone. Now he's the bad guy.

Is there a reason the dog can't stay outside? I grew up with dogs being outside animals so I don't see a problem in this. Only until I married my wife did I let a dog be primarily a house dog. Even so, I let her (our dog) stay outside as much as possible because I believe it's good for her.

It sounds like he's made exceptions and has only been met with resistance instead of compromise. I'm living that so I can understand his frustration. I'm highly allergic to cats and my wife convinced me to allow a cat in the house. After years of suffering with allergies because the cat box hasn't been kept clean, I would rather the cat be gone and I've told my wife and kids that. I'm sorry, I am sacrificing my health for something that they wanted, they can at least keep the cat box and hair cleaned up so I don't have to suffer.

Homegirl 50 · Aug 16, 2012, 07:58 PM

As I dog owner I am offended by the comment " Its a dog...it will be DEAD in the next 10-14 years."

I get your point but that is a bit callous.
It is a silly thing to leave your husband over a dog.
He committed to get the dog and now does not want it, that is childish. I don't know what to tell you. I don't trust people who are cruel to animals.
Have you told him how much you and your daughter care for the dog? Is he this way with other things. This sounds like it is about more than the dog.

DsprtCfsd · Aug 16, 2012, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

As I dog owner I am offended by the comment " Its a dog...it will be DEAD in the next 10-14 years."

I get your point but that is a bit callous.
It is a silly thing to leave your husband over a dog.
He committed to get the dog and now does not want it, that is childish. I don't know what to tell you. I don't trust people who are cruel to animals.
Have you told him how much you and your daughter care for the dog? Is he this way with other things. This sounds like it is about more than the dog.

Cruelty to animals? Because he would rather let the dog stay outside or he yells at the dog for what ever reason that the OP left out or claps at the dog? I didn't read where he neglected to feed, water, let the dog out. Left the dog outside without water in the heat or somewhere to avoid the heat. I absolutely didn't see where she stated he beat the dog. How has he been cruel to animals?

Fr_Chuck · Aug 16, 2012, 08:05 PM

The way "he " is acting, he needs to leave you for the way you are behaving.

Why not make it a outside dog full time? Next is he having to do things for the dog? he did not want it to start with ? Have you sent the dog to be trained to behave ? why not ?

If you really feel that way, leave him, since he deserves someone much better than you.

Homegirl 50 · Aug 16, 2012, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by DsprtCfsd

Cruelty to animals? Because he would rather let the dog stay outside or he yells at the dog for what ever reason that the OP left out or claps at the dog? I didn't read where he neglected to feed, water, let the dog out. Left the dog outside without water in the heat or somewhere to avoid the heat. I absolutely didn't see where she stated he beat the dog. How has he been cruel to animals?

I didn't say he was cruel to the dog. I said I don't trust people who are cruel to dogs.
He agreed to the dog, he did not have to. I don't see were he was forced to get it. They got a house dog, not an outdoor dog. I have had dogs and none of my dogs have been outdoor dogs.

Homegirl 50 · Aug 16, 2012, 08:17 PM

This is a grown man, if he did not want a dog he should not have agreed to get one. No where does it say he was pressured. If he compromised to get one he should have gotten an outdoor dog.
Find another home for the dog, one where it will be cared for as it should be and you two don't get anymore dogs.

DsprtCfsd · Aug 16, 2012, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I didn't say he was cruel to the dog. I said I don't trust people who are cruel to dogs.
He agreed to the dog, he did not have to. I don't see were he was forced to get it. They got a house dog, not an outdoor dog. I have had dogs and none of my dogs have been outdoor dogs.

Then I apologize, I assumed based on a comment directed towards this thread. Most dogs are inherently out door animals. Certain dog breads are more emotionally attached to their owners than others I can agree which makes it more convenient for them to be an indoor animal. My dog is a German Shepard and she definitely has separation anxiety which makes it difficult for her to be outside by herself but that doesn't mean she can't be left outside. I would rather my dog running outside than being cooped up inside where she couldn't release her energy. We do spend a lot of time outside with Emmy, playing fetch, the kids chasing her, her chasing the kids.

On the flip side, the German Shepard sheds all year long. They blow coat twice a year. We are vacuuming the house every day to keep the hair to a minimal.

mjzer what's the breed of dog that you brought home? This would be easier to address knowing that information. If it's a small breed dog I can understand a little more. Medium to large breeds are more commonly outside animals.

mjzer · Aug 16, 2012, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

This is a grown man, if he did not want a dog he should not have agreed to get one. No where does it say he was pressured. If he compromised to get one he should have gotten an outdoor dog.
Find another home for the dog, one where it will be cared for as it should be and you two don't get anymore dogs.

You are right he was not pressured into getting the dog. We have been married 13 years and he has never worked. I have always supported him. I received money when my mom died and bought a house. I feel I should be able to have a dog. I spent over 600.00 to purchase dog and we got her 600 miles away. He took me to get her. I don't feel now that we have had her two months he should be acting the way he is. I don't ask him to take of her. I bath her, take her to the vet and to comprise I keep her in the laundry room she does not have run of the house. She does not potty in house. She is a good dog. On the other hand my husband is being a big baby and crying over a dog. I agree also I don't trust people that aren't good to animals as they usually aren't good with other things.

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