My boyfriend is in jail. And I want to marry him. I can't find no information on anything. Can someone help me out hereeee? Lol

Who's been in these shoes?

Why is your boyfriend in jail? How long is he going to be in jail? Is this his first offense? Or is this a pattern of behavior for him? Did you know him before he went to jail? Why do you want to marry him? Does he want to marry you? What is your gain in getting married to him? What would be his gain in marrying you?

Yes, marrying someone in jail or prison is possible. You and your boyfriend need to follow the rules set by that county or city jail. So that is where you start - at the jail. Or if you have a minister, ask that person, as ministers can (and do) visit jails and perhaps that person would know the protocol. You would need a marriage license for sure. Also, check with the clergy who visit the jail or are assigned to the jail.

He in jail cause he in jail I don't want to say anything sorry. He should only be in there for 2 years or least it depends on his parole. Yes its his first offence. Nah its not a pattern of behavior. Yes I knew him before he went into jail. But we weren't dating. I want to marry him cause I love him and I want to marry him cause I can spend more then 7 days at his trailer with him. Yes he wants to marry me. We want to marry each other we been I don't know going though a lot since he been in there. We did nothing but talk on the phone write and everything. Well iuno. I just want to marry him I don't know no pastor minster or watever. Do I go to city hall and get that but don't my fiancé have to be there? Lol

Ms. Typical,

I have to ask this because I'm concerned for you. What was your boy friend convicted of and how long is he sentenced?

Finding him in your state's prison system should be fairly easy. Contact the court system he was convicted under and ask for the disposition of the case and into whose custody he was remanded into. Then contact the remanding agency and see where he was put.

I want you to think long and hard before you take the next step. Depending on when he was sentenced, determine if he has had ample time to contact you by snail mail. If he has, then he has in fact made a decision for you. If he wanted you around, he would have contacted you and asked you.

There are several immediate reasons for you not to marry while he is imprisoned the first of which is not knowing what you are going to get back from the inside of that prison. Any prison is violent regardless of what the warden's think. The degree of violence reflects the make up of inmates. Any type of violent offender is going to be incarcerated with like felons just like himself. Survival is tough!

Please take your time, if your purpose is to support him, forget it, he's got to do that himself. He did the crime now he gets to do the time.

If it is a multi year sentence, then your hope for a normal married life is at least that far off into the future, assuming he gets into an early release program for good behavior.

Be smart, wait and see what his first step is!

hey well thank you for the advice or what not but I'm serious about marry him in there.. he has a year left of his parole and then he might be coming out but I do want to marry him. =) so do you know how to do it?

he the one that asked me to marry him :)

Ms Typical,

If he is still incarcerated he is not on parole. His parole hearing is pending or still off in the future. There is no guarantee that he will be paroled. And with parole may come a mandatory amount of time in a half way house depending on how long he has been in jail.

You sound so unconcerned for your basic safety. If this is something you really want to do then, I'd suggest that you talk to your Priest, Pastor or Rabbi if you have one just to get some additional insights.

As to the mechanics of marriage, I would think that the person your intended should see is the prison Chaplin. In fact it would be a very good idea that both of you see the Chaplin. With the Chaplin's approval, then the next step is to get the warden's permission.

I'm really curious, how did you and your fellow meet? How long have you known him?

Well I've known him all my life.. lol
Our family and stuff grew up together. You know what I mean and I'm serious about it.. me and him been talking for about a year maybe even longer I go up to see him all the time I think its time to be his wife to get those longer visits.

Ms. Typical,

Thanks for the answers. I understand why you are not a little leary of the guy.

With as strong a history that you have your risks are much more manaigble. I suggets you get your guy to work through the prision management or the prision Chaplin, the policy should be easy for either person get their hands on for you guys.

Good luck with your marriage!

thanks a lot, so if I have more question I can come to you
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ms x typical

You should have a marriage with your best friend that loves and respects you... not just for longer conjugal visits. Could you wait until he's released?

My sister has been with her boyfriend for 6 years and he only proposed when he got arrested during a 6 month sentence... asking her over the phone. It just sounded like a desperate man. He could have given her a loving proposal rather than a jailhouse plee. I just don't want to think that's all he's asking you for. Either way, you'll have to call the jail and ask them what should be done. It depends on where he's locked up.

Good Luck

Hey esa don't listen to all these people if you want to marry your vato then do it. Go to the court house and get a marriage affidavit for your man send it to him have him fill it send it back to you then go back to the court house give it to them they will give you a marriage license you fill it out send it to him so he can sign it then he sends it back to you and you take it to the court house and they put it in the computer and you're married. To legally change your last name you have to go to the dmv with all your marriage papers and an old photo id. Then go to the social security office with all your papers and then wait for your new social security card. I did it and I'm soooo happily married and my husband is in prison for 6 years!

Why not try to find someone on the outside, I assume if he has a year left he must be a real winner, huh. Of course he talks to you a lot, probably not too many women around him in prison. Scary at best.

Hi I am in the same sitiation and if you live in Texas, Montana, Colorado and another state you can get married by proxy if h signs his power of attoney over to you that's what my fiancé did and I can't do it because I don't live in those states

Hi its me again can email; me at [email protected] so we can tak more about this
But your not alone trust me my fiancé was suppose to marry me the day after I turned 18 until he got arrestted

I'm Canadian n my fiancé is in prison in north Carolina can we get married still if I send him the papers?

Because I'm williong to wait for him n I'm also saving myself for him

Good luck to you crazy kids. With love, hard work, and obviously a good lawyer, you kids may have a double wide within 10years.

This thread is from 2007. I'm sure OP has moved on. Please check the dates.

This is coming from an "ultra" member. Lol