Blended family

@judykeyTee I'm trying to leave I'm trying to save money so I can get a apartment and the things I need for it. When I get paid after I buy food for my kids and pay my part of the bills and make sure I have gas money for the next to weeks I'm just about broke. And yes he does control the air but I will turn it on and we argue but I don't care. I'm trying to leave the easy way but I don't think it's going to be.

Why did you marry him? I'm assuming he did not all of a sudden get this way with your kids. You've been with this man 7 years.
Leave him. There is no way I'd stay married to a man that mistreats my kids.

I don't think there ever is an easy way. Why do you have to leave with the children? Can't you just ask him to leave or retain an Attorney to get him out?

@homegirl50 he was not like this when we was dating. It's hard to leave when u don't have anywhere to go no family or friends. When I save enough money to leave I will right now I don't have the money (wish I did)

@judykayTee I have asked him to leave he said he's not going anywhere. I can't afford a attorney right now.

You both own the home, you are both on the deed (right?), you are married.
You don't have to leave.
I personally suggest a marriage counselor with a lot of emphasis on the financial aspect, but the emotional and practical too. Both of you are not used to operating as a combined family. Going to the movies with one son somehow had vast importance to him which could be because you have certain reservations about blending with his kids too, and the difference of his kids being there only part time certainly doesn't make it any easier. Talking it out is key. You must have gotten along fine for 7 years! Can this marriage be saved? I think it could. If you can't afford counseling sit down with paper and pen and each write down all those little needs and wishes about the kids, the money, the gifts, the food, the AC, and finally the bills. Cold as it sounds, maybe a book of who spends what on what is a start.