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I'm 19 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Everyone says that 19 is too young to get married, but I think it's more of a matter of how well you get along and if you could stand spending the rest of your life with that person. Could I get some help here?
If your love is real it should still be as real later when you are older
but I believe that you can know you are right for each other at 19
It is a matter of being mature and knowing when the time is right.
I personally do not think age is as much a factor as compatibility.
At 30 we can still end up marrying the wrong one so I don't think it is so much a matter of too young.
I think if you love each other now, you will two years from now. You love each other as teens, you don't know how you will change and be as adults. You change a lot between 19 and say 23 or so. Do you two have plans for college?
Personally I think it's too young. There is so much growing and maturing you will do in the next few years, you need that "finding yourself time" Take it. It only comes once.
Maturity levels are different in each person, someone could be matured and handle responsibilities so well while some still act like kids. The most important issue is "Are you really ready?"
If you think you are well prepared, it's fine. I mean other than love, do you have education, jobs, $$, place to live, etc. The fact is we all live in material world, when poverty enters the door, love flies out of the window.
Lawanwadee, made an excellent point. Are you guys prepared for the financial responsibilities of a household? What is the is a baby, can you afford that? Wanting to be married and love is not enough if you can't afford a household. If you are 19 and he is too, I can't imagine you two are making that much money, and it dies take money to live.
A person may or may not be too young for marriage, but a specific adult age isn't.
I'm going to assume that you are mature enough to know how you feel about him. Being together 2 years is a good sign, but its at the low end of that scale.
The real key here is your financial preparation. Are you both going to college? Do you both have jobs? What if you get pregnant? If you can respond with the answer to these questions we can judge better YOUR situation and help further.
I do believe at 19, you may not know your heart entirely. If your love is real, it will last until one or both of you finish college. Then you will be better equipt to deal with what life throws you. One of the biggest problems in marriages is financal. College first would solve that one. Give it some thought.
im only 17 years old almost 18.... i have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. so i know how you feel about being young and in love... 19 is young to get married yes but i believe that if you two have been together for 2 years, the teenage years im sure youve been through some rough stuff, the teenage years are the hardest to hold on to becuase the boys always want to go out and party with there friends.
i see a lot of people on here believe that 19 is too young because of college, but if you go to college you two could always rent a house down by the college or go to tech school. 19 is young but if you have been together for 2 years out of the teenage life i believe you will only grow to love them more...
this is speaking out of my own expeirence with my boyfriend, we have been through a lot but we have still been willing to forgive and still love...
im only 17 years old almost 18.... .
this is speaking out of my own expeirence with my boyfriend, we have been through a lot but we have still been willing to forgive and still love...
good luck!
I'm sorry Lisa, but 17 is not old enough to speak from any real experience. I don't know what you consider "a lot" but marriage brings a set of different things into play.
Your idea about renting a house near the school just shows that you really don't understand. Where are they going to get the money to pay for this rental? Where are they going to get the funds to furnish it? Do you understand that you generally have to put up at least two months rent before you start living someplace? And assuming they can get jobs that earn enough to pay the rent AND put food on the table. How much time is that going to leave for studies? Between classes, working and studying, how much time do you think they would actually be together? Do you have a clue how much of a strain that puts on a relationship?
Its nice that you want to help, but encouraging a 19 yr old to get married, especially without knowing the whole story of their situation, is not helping.
excuse me but i do happen to know all of this you have putten in your previous message.
i do live with my boyfriend, i go to school, and i work.
i do happen to know that you generally have to put up 1 MONTH plus security deposit.
i am not a stupid KID (as you would say)
as for furnishings... most parents will allow there now adults to take there bed, tv,dressers, clothing.
as for kitchen stuff, most apartments come equipt with fridge,stove,and microwave.
over time you can come to buy stuff that may not be super nice but are cheap,
like you can buy a couch from salvation army,love inc. or any place that sells used furniture. i dont appreicate being called immature becaue i do know more then you would guess and i will continue to give a 19 year old information on getting married.
i know people who are married and have children at this age and are doing great living in apartment, going to school and going to work. so please dont put down the people who do it.
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