Dear expert:
Recently, I am kind of disturbed and contradicted.　As I am a woman, of course, I do want 100% equality in job opportunities and other areas of life as well. However, I am not totally sure if it is right that for me to get benefits of traditional courtship, like being treated for dinners, or should I fight for the check, pay for it to prove my financial viability???
From a doubtful Asian woman　

JimGunther

As I am sure you are aware, social customs are constantly changing, and even now, there are inequalities in social and official treatment of men and women. For example, by law, men and women are entitled to the same rights and benefits of the Constitution, but men are called upon to die in combat while women are not.

Social customs in dating in this country these days are more often than not flexible enough to allow the couple to do just about anything they feel is proper for them. There is certainly no need for you to prove that you have the means to pay for dinner, and you are certainly free to offer to pay if you feel the desire to do so. Getting to know the other person and making the determination that they are or are not right for you is far more important than social custom.