how can you accept a religion where you they say its ok for your husband to get married to other 3?.. its is training your husband to cheat..

a woman is emotionaley weaker than the man... ( keep this is mind)
now lets leave islam and god and everything. think just as human beings... would a man be ok sharing his wife with another man? touching her, kissing her, making love to her? ( im sure the answer will be no) so how is it ok for a woman to share her husband with another 3? what about jeliousy? feeling? is that fair? is that really religion? is that really god?

and dont say oh well there are reasons.. such as if the wife can not have a child so its ok to get married to some one else.. again let 4get islam and god and evrythign else.. as human.. a wife.. she cant have a child.. she will feel bad for not having the best gifts in life.. and she feels bad coz she cant give her husband a child.. feeling conused.. scared.. so what the husband says ok sorry your no good i wanna a baby good bye adios? insted of comferting he and tellign her its ok and maybe look into adoption or whatever..

in islam you tottaly miss the point of why you get married.. you are so driven by relegion and family that you dont stop and think to yourself.. what am I doing? is thia right? wrong? your so much in fear of god burning you.. which he wont ( coz god is supose to be fair and loving and not burns you if you sinned and all)


Bottom line getting married to 4 is wrong what ever the reasons are god or no god islam or no islam.. you can share anything but not a heart.

any views?

katrina27

i am a christian, i am Irish. I have the right to live by my christian believes. just as muslim communities have the same right to practice Islam. Who are we to judge. i am married happily to one man. the norm for me and my culture.
it is my understanding that a muslim man can only marry more than one wife if he is able to provide for all the wives. i think this tradition began in Islam at a time when many men were killed at war. there were so many women so the remaining men married. strange yes to me, but still noble.

zoombie1991

salam my dear brother!
first of all let me tell you that islam is the only religion religion in which restricted polygamy is allowed. In all other religions[/i][/b](including christianity, hinduism, etc) one can have as many wives as he wishes! e.g. solomon had hundreds of wives and similarly krishna also had hundreds of wives. Quran says one can marry 4 women however IF HE CANNOT DO JUSTICE MARR ONLY ONE.
now let me tell you that in this world the woman population is much more than male population . the reason is that in wars mostly men die similarly many male children die in young age due to illness whereas female child has better mechanism to fight against diseases. u can get proof about this from UNESCO website. In USA alone there were 7.8 million more women than men in 2006. if every man marry only one woman then what will happen to these 7.8 million women? there are three solutions
1 firstly they stay unmarried
2 secondly they become prostitutes
3 thirdly they have illegal sexual relations with OTHER MARRIED MEN
4 finally they marry a man who is already married
its up to you to decide which option is best

now you also asked if a man would like his wife make love or in simpler words do sex with other men.Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different phases of the menstrual cycle.
MOST IMPORTONTLY-A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.

Fr_Chuck

First, if the muslim members here are offended by this post and see it as an attack, let me know I will delete it, I will not tolorate anyone attacking someones religion on thier own board.

But where does it say that a Christian can only have one wife ( except for Christian leaders) in bibical time many had several wifes, some of the most famous people in the old testement had several wife. And I can not nothing about Christianity that really stops pural marriage, not that I would wish that on anyone.

So we can only reference it form an american or european culture

But I do wonder on the number 4, why not 3 or why not 5

firmbeliever

Assalaam alaikum,

Thank you for your answer.

I would just like to note the fact that Solomon (alaihi salaam) and all other Prophets and messengers of Old times are believers in the same Almighty as us muslims.
You must remember not to discriminate any of the Prophets or messengers for they were all chosen by the Almighty to bring the message to their nations of their times.

Wa alaikum salaam



Fr-Chuck,
I am not sure I understood your question right.
Is it you want to know where it says that Christians can have one wife?Is that what you wanted to know?

Regarding the number, that is the number mentioned in the Quran and I dont think any human would really know the reason for it being 4 and not 5 or 3.The Almighty knows the exact reason why.

The Quran mentions that men are allowed two,three or four if the man can deal with all of them justly.But if he thinks he cant deal justly, to marry one one.