My mom logged in to my facebook account w/o my consent

forksandspoons · Feb 16, 2012, 11:08 AM

Oh, and as far as that "ill advised relationship with a minor" I put a stop to that. I was swept up with lots of confusing emotion. Ultimately, I decided against it. I told her it was wrong and cut of conversation with her. That is 100% irrelevant and I would prefer it not be brought up again. Thank you.

jenniepepsi · Feb 16, 2012, 11:20 AM

First, report this to facebook and change your password.

it is not illigal.
however is is against facebook terms of service.

is it your computer? if so, put a lock password on it.

if it is your mothers computer, quit using it, and use a library computer or other public computer, or get your own.

I honestly do agree, your moms house, your moms rules.
but that does NOT apply to your privacy, nor does it apply online.

protect yourself. and dont let this happen again.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 16, 2012, 11:25 AM

You live in their home, ( assume using their internet). An example if you worked for a large company and was on a company computer, they often have key stoke or site recorders and almost all have email systems that copy and save all email, So you have privacy when using your computer on your own system only.

But you gave them the password, so at that point it was permission to enter and read and see your site.

If you don't want them to see it, you change password and don't give it to them.

Next of course you violated their privacy by going in their bedroom and reading things on their desk.

forksandspoons · Feb 16, 2012, 11:36 AM

Actually, I am not using internet that they pay for. It is mine, and my own laptop. My mom has her own desktop that I do not use, or ever log in to facebook on. Even so, if it were her internet, she is still accessing another adults private email.

I never specifically told her my facebook password. I told her in general, what the formula/components of my passwords are, so there had to be at least a little guesswork involved.

Also, it is understood in this house that I can enter their room to get my cat. And you are out of your mind if you think I will simply ignore copies of my private conversations printed out. She is not entitled to privately have that, such as, I am not invading her privacy by doing so.

LearningAsIGo · Feb 16, 2012, 11:46 AM

We could beat this to death with details of your living arrangment but I think the answer is simple. As other posters mentioned, change your password to something she (nor anyone else) can guess, report the violation to facebook and then WITH RESPECT discuss this with your mother. Because you are living in her home, their rules apply, but that does not take away your right to privacy. Since it is your mother and her home, keep it respectful and start by asking her what reason she had for doing this. It might be a good opportunity to discuss your entire living situation and set ground rules for both sides.

forksandspoons · Feb 16, 2012, 10:42 PM

So, I confronted her about this. She seemed genuinely remorseful and willingly handed over what she printed out. Had she not gone that route, I'm not sure what I would have done. It would have negatively effected our relationship, that is for sure.

ScottGem · Feb 17, 2012, 03:29 AM

I'm going to take a different tack here. Did you ever stop to think that she did it because she cares about you? That she may have some concerns about you and wanted to know more about how you were doing.

I'm not saying that excuses her. Since you are an adult, it does seem over the top. But I think you need to understand why she did it.

You let her know what password you might be using so there is no illegality about it.

My mom logged in to my facebook account w/o my consent

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