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annnnnie · May 7, 2009, 11:48 AM

I recently have been getting really close to one of my friends, everyone's been saying we look really cute together we should get together bla bla bla. I guess you could say I like him too but not enough to want a relationship with him. He told be about 6 months ago that he liked me and I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship but we started getting close about 2 weeks ago. We have been going out with talking about pretty much everything, walking around with arms around each other so I guess it looks like I like him too but yesterday I went out with my really close friend and it was his birthday we go out all the time and been hinting to me for a while he wanted to do stuff with me (not sex) and yesterday it sort of just happened. I feel quite guilty about my other friend and I don't know what to do so please can you tell me how you would feel if you were in my friends shoes I really don't want to upset him. Also am I in the wrong for doing this?

BMI · May 7, 2009, 12:00 PM

I wouldn't say you are wrong for acting the way you have. However, IF you have no interest in your other friend than holding hands or arms may be seen as leading him on. You are not a bad friend because you like someone other than him, although if that is true and you know helikes you than you will have to tell him.

He is going to be sad if you tell him your not interested but that is not your fault. The alternative would be to date him even though you're not interested in that kind of relationship, that would hurt him even more.

You sound like a very caring friend who is in a confusing situation, you cannot please everyone. Good luck.

mudweiser · May 7, 2009, 12:00 PM

Okay let me get this straight.

Your friends with Guy1 and you had a sexual encounter with Guy2--- but now you feel bad about Guy1?

Am I right?

Sarah

annnnnie · May 7, 2009, 12:14 PM

Yeah that's write x

mudweiser · May 7, 2009, 12:29 PM

Okay.. well the BMI hit it right.

IF you have no interest in your other friend than holding hands or arms may be seen as leading him on. You are not a bad friend because you like someone other than him, although if that is true and you know helikes you than you will have to tell him.

Sarah

I wish · May 7, 2009, 12:40 PM

Before you take anymore steps with either guy, you should sort out your feelings for each guy first. Sounds like you like "guy 2" more than "guy 1."

Don't lead both guys on.