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I am homeschooling my 15 yr ols son. I started towards the end of the year last year.
Now that school has started again { Break is over}
I am having a hard time getting him to work for more than an hour a day.
he is doing beter than he was in the public school and getting good grades.
I told him that in public school you sit for 7 hrs and work,
why cant you just keep working for at least another hour or so.
it is like pulling teeth to get him to sit for 1 hour!
Did I make the wrong choice to home school him?
Also I am worried about him socially I try to make subjestion as to making friends,
and joining the youth groups at a church and he said no thanks I have friends, he does have a few, but how is he going to meet new people?
I just cant seem to motivate him I ask him to go with me to work out for physical fitness and he dont even want to do that. I tell him that if he dont do all the work I have for him for the day that he is not going anywhere, and then I feel guilty because he dont go anywhere or do anything any way, and when a friend does call him to do something I am so happy for him that I end up letting him go. I say ok but tomorrow you are going to finish that work he says ok. Then the same thing happens the next day.
Its a constant fight and he says thats all I do is nag him and its true because he wont compromise. HELP!
You need a room set up with a desk and a set schedule, most home school can be done in about 4 to 5 good study hours not counting PE and arts and music.
So you have a set time for each class and just make him do it. You are the teacher he is the student. You write up a lesson plan for each day and the week, and follow it as much as possible.
he has no choice, you tell him to read this, or fill this out or do this lesson, and he has to do it.
Does either of you have teenagers?
Ret you said it sounds like he is incharge, Did you read the part about him not going anywhere or doing anything? The reason I let him go?
Any comment for that?
The advice from tuscany sounds like what you would do with a 5 yr old.
Oh well thanks for trying
I know J-9 already pointed this out (Thanks J) but yes I have children. They may not be mine by blood, but every student that I teach touches my life, therefore I am invested in seeing them succeed. I teach middle school and high school, so I guess I am around teenagers quite a bit. And in the summer I don't take a break for too long because I also co-direct a 3 day eventing horseback riding camp for young adults.
That being said, I firmly believe what J-9 said is correct. You need to remember that you are the adult and he is the child (even at 15 they are still children). Every child needs structure and having a schedule and sticking to it is a great way to start. Once you are both used to the schedule it will flow and just become a way of life. My 15 year old students have a schedule when they enter the classroom. Each one knows what to do and what to expect throughout the class. This decreases the chances of outbursts and fear (every one likes to know what to expect) about what is coming next.
I am not saying that the schedule is the only way to fix your problem. But I am offering you an option to try to improve your day. I will say again Loving Education At Home (LEAH) could help you, as could many other homeschooling programs throughout the USA.
Up date,
Things are going a little better he is getting back on track again.
My husband leaves x amount of work on each subject a day and He has to do what he leaves weather it takes him 1 hr or 4hrs. It seems the more I nag the slower he gos, so I have been, trying not to say much like you know you have to do this and that, he knows the night before when my husband tells him what the plan is for the falowing morning.
One day he did it all but 1 thing and I dident say any thing until he asked me to take him to his friends house I said no you dident finish all your work, he gripped about it and went and took a shower watched tv, I thought he wasent going to do it and then after awhile he finished it. I think with him at this age he wants to feel like he is a little bit incontrol and the less I say the beter.
The answer to the question, why at 15 is it his first year, Yes it is his first yr,
our options were send him to the school that is now full of gang members,My son was not doing well the first yr of high school at all.I seen him change for the worst, grades drop, and he said he would rather sit in in school suspention then walk the halls and go to class.He started getting iss all the time,I think he was doing it on purpose.He made comments to me that made me know he was having trouble but would not say out right that he was in some way being harrased. He said that black people are more perdjudise than white, The last straw was when there was a shooting gang related at the school. private school which we can not afford or move which we tried but no houses are selling here, we are still contimplating moving. We are living pay ck to pay ck and paying for college for our 18 yr old
Alot of people around us were resorting to homeschool so we investigated it and thought it would be a good idea. My husband and I are able to help him with most of his work if he needs it and when we cant my sister is a teacher and helps, also there is a tutor if you need it through the program. The work is not the probleam its the motivation, but its coming along we have to do what we have to do to get him through.
My husband is more strick than I, we have our debates he wont allow open book test,
but the instructions say he can he just cant have it for the self help tests. he dont get the
books for either, my husband said he wants to make sure he is learning it and not just skating through. He has to get through 16 books to get a diploma and he has finished
4 so far working through the summer and half of the last school year. He has to complete
4 more before the end of this year so we are trying to keep a pace and stay at it.
As a teacher I can honestly say that the dynamics of the school environment are changing drastically. It does not matter if you live in the city or in the suburbs, violence, gang activity, drug use and truency are all things that every school has to deal with to various degrees.
As stated earlier I think that when done properly homeschooling is an outstanding alternative to the traditional classroom setting. I do think that your husband is correct however, it is important to make sure that he is not just skating through; especially if he is planning on going on to college. Moreover, many homeschooling organizations offer social outings that allow homeschooled children an opportunity to socialize with children their own age. I would look into that as well.
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