Hi everyone,

I have recently started at a new school. My parents are paying fifteen thousand pounds a year for me to go and I hate it! I do not fit into the "I am a rich kid and I get everything I ask for" or the "Posh English kid" category and I feel that because of this everyone ignores me and doesn't want to get to know me! On my first day all they asked me was "whats your dad's job" and when I told them they just walked away! Its rubbish.
I have to go to a school on a Saturday so I have no social life and I can't put up with it! Im expected to do after school activities so I am leaving school and 5:30 in the evening its rubbish.
I haven't told my parents because they would say I am being ungrateful! But im not I just cant handle all of the pressure from the teachers and kids!
I dont fit in and its hell!
PLEASE HELP WHAT SHOLD I DO?????

Thanks in advance,

Jack

Foxy459459

Hi Jack, my name is Jen, my mom put me in private school when i was younger, and i know how you feel. I hated it. The only problem is there really is nothing you can do about it, besides try and make the best of it for alittle while. Show your parents that you are trying to fit in and after awhile if it still doesnt work out then try and have a heart to heart with your parents. but you have to at least try.

GlindaofOz

Have you tried to get to know anyone or are you walking around with a chip on your shoulder because you are not rich? We get in this world what we put out. I can guarantee that you are not the only person at that school who is not extremely wealthy. plenty of kids get to private schools on scholarship and their parents make very little money.

I think that if you tried you would see that you have a lot more in common with these kids then you think. You feel that they are judging you but you are also judging them. Its never easy to be the new kid insecurities flare up big time. But the more you focus on the negative the worse its going to be. Try for a month to enjoy yourself at school and make friends and enjoy your activities.

You probably hate to hear this but your parents are probably sacrificing a lot in order for you to go to this private school. This school I'm certain is going to help you in getting into a good college and setting you up for your future. I'm guessing that your public schools were not challenging you enough so why not dig the challenge?

Change the way you are thinking about this situation and I think you will actually start to *gasp* make it work!

GlindaofOz

Please read the site rules in regards to assigning people agree/disagree. The information I gave you was not dangerous nor was it factually incorrect.

how long have you been at this school?

How many people have you approached?

How have you tried to make friends?

Have you been friendly or have you acted as if everyone would reject you since you are not rich?

Why did you elect to go to this school to begin with if you have such strong feelings regarding rich people?

GlindaofOz

Do not answer my questions over PM you are supposed to answer through this forum.

Okay so you have tried but you admit to having low self esteem. To you think that you may psych yourself out of friendships? you say that your family is middle class so I imagine that you are not the only middle class kid in this school. Maybe you would feel more confident talking to those kids? There are going to be jerks no matter where you go in this world and there will be people who are boastful about wealth and status so the only thing you can do is change how you react to them.

I'm guessing that going to this school is going to be good for your future or why else would you parents insist that you attend? Your studies right now could potentially determine the rest of your life and it seems as if your parents are trying to give you a leg up.

Jack2794

sorry!

Wondergirl

Glinda is correct. These snobby rich kids may turn out to be part of a very valuable network you have as an adult. I know it's difficult when you're still young, but look at the opportunities in front of you--academic ones and well as social.

If you have self-esteem problems, you need to find ways to overcome them. What led to your having them in the first place? They aren't something new because of this school.

Think of a lighthearted answer to "what does your dad do?" or better, turn the tables and ask a question of your own (to show your interest in the other person) instead of answering this one.

Your glass is at least half full, not half empty.

Jack2794

Thanks for the comments. My confidnece went really downhill when I moved from scotland down to England a few years ago. I had many friends there and really enjoyed school. But as soon as I arrived at a junior/primary school in England I was the strange kid with a weird accent and I suppose my confidnece went down from there when I was no longer accepted. I have never really managed to move on from Scotland. I just remeber what a fun time I had there. I suppose aswell I liked performing on the stage and I did it at the junior school and everyone made fun of me because I couldn't get the english voice right and they just laughed at me on stage and would come up to me and mock my accent. Unfortuantly there were not any other Scottish people in my class. From that point on I just went quiet I coudn't do an english accent so instead it would be easier to stay quiet! I have never had the confidence to go on stage since that time so maybe there is a link I dont know?

Jack2794

Oh and also Im sorry Glinda for the disagreeing comment and using the PM feature accept my apoligies, thanks

Wondergirl

Scottish people have wonderful accents!! Use it to good advantage. Certainly there are plays that feature Scottish characters. Mention some to those who plan the dramas/comedies. If you can't figure out any titles, let me know and I will suggest some.

P.S. Hey! You're from Scotland. What plays were you in in the past that the private school would be willing to put on because the plays are funny or dramatically challenging? Gee whiz! Use what you know best to make inroads at this school!!