Dear expert:
Recently, I am kind of disturbed and contradicted.　As I am a woman, of course, I do want 100% equality in job opportunities and other areas of life as well. However, I am not totally sure if it is right that for me to get benefits of traditional courtship, like being treated for dinners, or should I fight for the check, pay for it to prove my financial viability???
From a doubtful Asian woman　

JimGunther

I have seen this question a few times before and it is always interesting to find that people are so concerned about such issues.

One thing you will find in the United States is that the social customs, particularly dating customs, , are generally more flexible than in other cultures. In reality, what two people do on a date, including who pays for what, is pretty much their own business and it doesn't matter one way or the other as far as the customs of this scoiety are concerned. Traditionally, the man pays for the dinner, show, or whatever activities the couple enjoys together, but you can always offer to contribute without fear of violating social custom in this country.

The overriding social custom in America is that couples are free to handle such things the way they want to and its nobody else's business!!!