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I was just wondering if anyone can list some qualifications/criteria that may indicate a child is "gifted". My mother always said, "Everyone thinks their crow is the blackest," so how do I know whether I am just doting on a bright child or if my child really "gifted"? I don't want to put pressure on her to perform at an unattainable level just because I think she is the best kid in the world
How old is she? Don't worry about how she compares to other kids. To you, she is the best kid in the world, and the best gift you can give her is to tell her that every day. Being smart is a little bit overrated in my opinion. Some of the most miserable, obnoxious people I've ever met were way smart, but emotionally insecure. Love her, play with her, give her your undivided attention and let somebody else worry about whose crow is the blackest. Your mom sounds like a wise lady.
What you have to remember that children can be giften in some areas and normal in others. Some people may be gifted in music but even below normal in math or reading.
The gifted musician may be playing three music instruments and writing music by 6. But they may have been late walking or getting potty trained.
Many math genius have trouble with intercommunication skills.
She is 7, and I never compare her to other kids. I just want her to have an opportunity to get special instruction if it is appropriate for her. I think she may be a "gifted" kid, but if I am being biased, I could actually be harming her by pressing harder studies. If I knew some markers to look for, I can make a more informed choice. It's totally OK if she is not considered "gifted." That is what I meant- I was not saying that I compared her to others. I just don't want to confuse a mother's pride with truly rare talent or something.
I consider my daughter gifted, she never opens a book and is an A student, my mother-in-law is a 4th grade teacher here in Tipton, and has been for 20 years. We have learned through trial and tribulation that it is best that the child be kept in the mainstream if at all possible.
Children are cruel, they make fun of other children with disabilities, but they also make fun of kids in, what our schools call, challenge classes.
As long as your daughter is making her grades it is my opinion to keep her where she is. My daughter had the opportunity to go into "challenge" but declined because she knew what the others say.
I don't know if this will help any.... I was considered a gifted child. I would amuse adults by talking like them from a very young age. My (dysfunctional) parents had IQ tests done (it falls in the 2%) from about fourth grade and starting at sixth grade I was in school full time. By ninth grade, they wanted me to go to an advanced school but the school required the kids' permission to send them there (smart move since who would want a bunch of deliquent brainiacs!!) and I said no--long story there I am skipping.
As it was, I went to one of the best public school systems in the US, stayed an extra year (another long story refusing to graduate early) and graduated second in about 1200 kids with almost 30% more credits than anyone else. I still didn't appreciate this difference until I hit college, wow.
I did see early on what the really driven kids were like - shared a locker in freshman year of highschool with one, age 14 who was a senior with a 16 yr old brother who was a sophmore at Yale - both brothers were very socially inept and not very balanced or happy kids, I thought and so yep, I was encouraged to temper any ambitious drive from my observations of things like that. It made my parents unhappy but that was too bad (another long story)
Like ordinaryguy, I have found the folks in Mensa (tried them twice) and other competitive genius-types hard to take. I don't believe intellectual prowess is grounds for any power tripping or ranks me as superior as a human being. We ALL have gifts. I socialize with a vast array of people, making throwing a party challenging, oh well LOL!!
Sooo, it sounds like you have a good solid context in which to handle your bright child. Look after her schooling needs and see that she isn't being held back. One of the smartest things my parents did for me was put many things at my disposal to pick and choose from. Lots of exposure, very stimulating. But lots of pressure, well, it backfired with me. Part of my estrangment from my dad was his feeling I was not measuring up to my potential. Sad.
I hope you found this helpful. Good luck with raising Einsteinette!
PS What the good Fr Chuck says is true, I was gifted for language, visual arts, social stuff too but had to work for some of the maths and sciences and yet my famous rock star friend, brilliant man who I consider a "math savant" (he taught me music IS math) can't write a complete correct sentence of English!
LOL! I was one of those "gifted" kids, too- BIG IQ. I am pretty good with art and creative writing, but I believe my good grades came more from disciplined study and desire to learn stuff (hence, "research nerd"). I didn't just show up for class and get A's.
I went to public school and attended the advanced classes, but not until Junior High. My elementary school grades were horrible because i was bored and couldn't keep my locker clean (all my completed homework was crushed under the pile of stuff instead of being turned in). I didn't do well until someone literally pulled me out of that environment and taught me in a small group of kids with the same issues. When I went back to mainstream classes with other kids I did just fine and took all advanced courses in high school. So there is the root of my concern- I don't want to find out my mistake after her grades have gone down the crapper and people are telling her she is "slow" or something.
Right now my wonderchild is doing well, and I am happy for her to be just a regular fun-loving kid. She is very sociable and makes friends easily. I am not looking for her to attend college next year, just making sure I am not holding her back. the last thing I want to do is push her too hard and cause her to be an anxiety-ridden overacheiver with an eating disorder and OCD who never leaves the house...
Oh I had an algebra teacher who looked just like Walter Matthau BUT wasn't the least bit funny, not in the least, zero sense of humor, poor man! And there I was all visual and such wisecracking him from instinct, ouch to say how THAT went over. He proved to me how much of a nemesis a teacher can be to a bright but misguided student, holy cow! I wish I'd had yours, 3 is funny, so is 1.
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