Hello
My ex-girlfriend left me when she was pregnant with my child 12 years ago. I just located her after all this years of no contact whatsoever. She got married about 10 years ago. My son was not adopted by the step father to my knowledge. Even thou I would love to meet my son, I have to think about the welfare of my own family since I'm married with 3 kids. Before I contact her, could you please let me know what could be the worst case scenario in terms of possible child support or any other financial matters?
Thank you
Well as of this moment then, you have no parental rights as of now.
I am sadden that you might possibly not meet your son because you might be asked to pay child support....I do hope you change your mind.
But anything can really happen...I mean you both have moved on with your lives...both are married etc. Things may be as simple as you getting in touch with her and asking to meet your son and her agreeing.
But it may get very messy as well. Since you are not on the birth certificate she (the mother) can deny you seeing your son. In this case you would need to get an attorney, file for a paternity test, be added to the birth certificate, and get visitation rights. She may very well at that time, file for child support, which will be back-dated to the day the child was born.
That's a very tough decision. As much as I would love to meet my son, I'm still very worried with the outcome which could possibly end my own marriage due to possible financial struggle.
I told her at the beginning of our dating. But I haven't told her that I was searching for my son and she doesn't know that I found him. She doesn't like her life to be desrupted in any form, so I decided not to mention it since there is a chance that I will never make that call.
While I agree somewhat where Macksmom is coming from that its a shame you may not get to know your son, there is legal issue here. Since you are NOT on the b/c, after 12 years, you may not have any rights as the parent. You may not even be able to force a paternity test at this point. On the other hand, it is possible that she could get the courts to hit you with 12 years of back child suport.
You NEED to consult an attorney to advise you here. There are too many legal issues for us to be of much help.
True...with it being so long it might be a lil too late. If when she got married she could have wanted her husband to adopt the child. Since you are not on the birth certificate, and you said you haven't had contact in 12 years....she could have easily notified papers of her intent to have the child adopted...and when there was no response she would have been able to go along with the adoption. If that is the case, unfortuantely there is not much you can do.
But with the huge time lapse and attorney would be your best bet.....but I think you already know what you're going to do.......
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