My husband and I share joint guardianship (with another grandparent who hasn't been involved for 7 mths) of our two grandchildren. We located their father and have allowed him to have visits with them. Two weeks ago during their visit we were called by the children pleading to pick them up. Their father was physically abusing his girlfriend. She told us she had contacted the police and was heading straight to the hospital. As you may of guessed she did neither. I called the police to see if my grandchildren or better yet I myself could give a statement. They said it wouldn't account for nothing the victim has to report. I called DFS to see what they could do. They said there is nothing they could do. We filed for Permanent Guardianship but fear now because the father is showing great rage that he will appear and get court ordered visitation. We were wondering if what the children has shared to their counselor (she has told us she will be there in court) is enough to atleast only allow him supervised visits. We really want him to take parenting classes, anger mangement classes and AA classes.

fredg

Hi,
What is your question?
If you are concerned about the child's real father getting custody, you need to talk with a lawyer.
Why did you contact the real father, and offer visitation????
If he does not have a "visitation" agreement, written up and signed by you both, he has no legal right to anything.
Please talk with a lawyer for professional advise. I wish you the best, and good luck.
PS; You can't "make" him do anything. He will only attend AA when and if he thinks he needs help. You can't do it for him. The courts in all probability will not force him to attend anything either. Keep your guardian children away from him.

tsm445

We have not allowed the father any visitation since this occurence nor to we intend too without court order. We know that here in Delaware parents can get a court ordered attorney to rep. them. We do not know if the little evidence we have can prevent him from getting visitation.