My son

I'm not calling him a property I'm jst saying I don't want to give him my address

Was the father this big heavy drinking loser when you were having sex with him ... or did that happen after the child was born?

After he only got in contact in march my son was two in may, il go solicitor in the morning

As Scott said you keep digging a deeper hole for yourself.
Try to put yourself in another shoes. Let's imagine that a third party/ a judge/ have to look in a case where a father wants to establish rights and a mother is not willing to cooperate and hides her/ and the child's/ her present whereabouts is.

ops ...you are in UK

Yeah why is that oops? I've been more than fair with him an I don't want to go to court so don't see why I have to by made that's all I'm happy for him to see him but not with out me why does that make me the baddy?

Because the laws vary from country to country and from state to state. There is a big difference between the laws in USA and UK.


And I do not want to see Obama as the president but I can change nothing.
Who said you were bad because it?

Generally in the UK if a father is proven to be the father, then he gets immediately Parental responsibility which is similar to legal custody. After that he can file in Court for contact order/ visitation/. There is no strict conditions how much time to be granted.
According to the Children Act ,
(1)In this Act —
“a contact order” means an order requiring the person with whom a child lives, or is to live, to allow the child to visit or stay with the person named in the order, or for that person and the child otherwise to have contact with each other;
“a prohibited steps order” means an order that no step which could be taken by a parent in meeting his parental responsibility for a child, and which is of a kind specified in the order, shall be taken by any person without the consent of the court;
“a residence order” means an order settling the arrangements to be made as to the person with whom a child is to live; and
“a specific issue order” means an order giving directions for the purpose of determining a specific question which has arisen, or which may arise, in connection with any aspect of parental responsibility for a child.

I have seen many orders from two times direct contact a year to shared residence plan.

no coz yr saying I'm digging my self in deeper didn't relies this was American il jst go to a solicitors sorry for troubling you an thanks for yr time

I bet the solicitor will tell you that the father can file for paternity determination and contact order.