[Stac33]

I have noticed lately that my husband erection maybe isn't as hard as it once was. Also he would just randomly get an erection for no apparent reason and that isn't happening either. He doesn't seem to be into sex as much as he used to be. He's only 34 so I can't imagine what the problem might be. Do guys just go through phases? Will he get back to his normal self? This is really bothering me.:(

[misunderstood22]

I'm only 21 but let me ask you this... What are you doing to spice up your sex life? Surprise him one day when he comes home from work. Put on a school girl uniform... men love that. Be the dominate one. Use handcuffs, food, whatever you think may get him going. Also ask is he undergoing any unusual stress? I hope that helps. Remember ry a sexy costume. Role play. Meet at a bar and pretend to have an affair.

[NytCrawlr]

As for him "not being into sex", there could be many reasons and/or causes, ranging from stress, to medical issues, to social distractions, to simple boredom. If it's the latter, then "spicing things up", as misunderstood22 suggests, could well be the key. Obviously if it's mediacal, a doctor's advice is in order. As to his no longer getting "spontaneous" erections, that is quite common as he grows older. Sudden erections "popping up" at random times, for no apparent reason is a (frequently embarrassing) symptom of youth, which usually decreases once a man is past his early to mid 20's (usually much to the "victim"s relief).

[smoothy]

Job stress can cause this as well as medication and certain medical conditions. Perhaps its time he talked to his physician so it can be diagnosed as this is not normal. I'm 45 and get stressed if I don't get off once a day with my wife.

[Manny Mo]

There are a couple reasons he could be not into sex as much as he use to. One is that he could be losing his attraction to you. Have you changed physically since you guys started going out? I have had this one happen to me many times where my girlfriend has gained too much wait after we had been going out for awhile. I really cared for her, but I just stopped being attracted to her physically. I then had trouble performing even though I was still into her emotionally(I was in my early 20's at that time). Secondly, after being with the same person for a long time, the sex stops being exciting and sometimes it just becomes a chore. You have to constantly create new and exciting situations to keep both your interests. Unfortunately if you don't he may turn to someone else who is new and exciting or maybe he loves you too much to do something like that so he will look at porn instead and masturbate. You can also focus on his favorite sex act (could be oral) and perform it in a new and exciting way or environment. Just a suggestion. Most likely this is a combination of his drive has decreased and the excitement is no longer there in your love life. Just my opinion. Hope it helps.

[letmetellu]

Stac33, I think you need to just keep working with his problem, f you get my meaning. Talk to him while you ae engaging in sex and I don't mean to talk about the weather.
There is more that I could tell you but it is hard to explain in a few type written words.