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    doingtherightthing Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 2, 2007, 11:14 AM
    Trying to protect my child from Loser Dad
    My daughter is 3 1/2 she is very out going and wonderful to say the least. 4 years ago I made the mistake of sleeping with David and getting pregnant, he gave me the best thing in the world, but now my little girl is paying for my mistake. He is a high school drop out who can't keep a job, he owes me $10,000 in back support, but still has the nerve to demand his visitation. My little girl does not want to go, she does not talk about the trip went she gets home, I don't believe anything horrible goes on there, I just don't think she is old enough to understand. I have since married a wonderful man who provides for and loves me and my baby. What can I do to protect my child from having to deal with this loser!
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    Nov 2, 2007, 11:30 AM
    Child support and visitation are 2 separate issues... you can refuse visitation because of child support.
    If he is not a danger to your child there is really nothing you can do.

    I am not sure why you mentioned your husband, unless you are wanting him to adopt her. Again, not much you can do there. Unless the bio father agrees to sign over his rights to allow your husband to adopt nothing can be done as far as that goes.

    If you don't think anything bad is going on while she is visiting her dad, why do you feel like you need to "protect" her from him?
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    Nov 2, 2007, 12:03 PM
    If you even suspect something is happening, request that visitation be supervised. Or have a therapist talk to your daughter. They may be able to determine if anything wrong is going on.

    Even though support and visitation are separate, you might be able to use the back support as leverage to get him to agree to allow your husband to adopt.
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    Nov 2, 2007, 12:20 PM
    First, please don't ask a follow-up using PMs. Followups should be posted in the thread.

    You need to go back to the court that ordered the visitation and petititon them for a modification.
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    Nov 2, 2007, 07:33 PM
    A therapist or counselor to supervise his visits is a good idea since she will not tell you why she doesn't want to go. They can possibly determine what is bothering her about going and
    Help her through dealing with it. It could be as simple as not wanting to leave you though.
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