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    Aug 14, 2008, 10:24 AM
    Should I get emancipated?
    I'm 15 and I want to be emancipated but I really have no way to do it cause my mom is to nosy. I have friends that would help me but they live right around the conner from my mom. The reason I want to get emancipated I cause my mom just got custody of me two years ago and it seems the only reason for that is for me to clean her house. She gives me eight dollars a week and I have to go out and buy my own shampoo and girl things. Is this a good reason to get out on my own. My real dad even says it's a good idea:(
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    Aug 14, 2008, 10:37 AM
    There needs to be more reason than she is giving you chores and making you be responsible for yourself. I started working when I was 13. At a home for the elderly. I gave them showers and cleaned poop. I made minimum wage but you better believe that I was responsible for buying my own shampoo, tampons, soap and if there was something that I wanted, I saved for it. And there's nothing wrong w/ parents teaching their kids the value of a dollar and some kind of resposibility. Ecspecially in today's world. Kids are lazy these days. And I am NOT that old where I should be saying stuff like that. But it's true. Everything is SO much easier for you now than it was just a few short years ago when I was 15. It sounds like you want something for nothing and your just pissed. Is there any other reasons that you feel like emancipation is a good idea? There's got to be something else.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 10:37 AM
    There are stipulations to getting emancipated like age, have a job, be SELF sufficient, both parents permission,
    What state do you live in?
    Can your dad tell your mom why he thinks it's a good idea --convince her?
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    Aug 14, 2008, 10:38 AM
    I don't see a judge allowing it. In order for you to be emancipated you have to have a job that will support you including your house/appartment, utilities and food. If you don't have that then you better wait till you are 18. You can try to talk to your mom. The fact that she was ablt to get custody shows that she probably isn't as bad as you think. If you really think it's bad talk to your school couselor and he/she will have many more ideas for you.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 12:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by jamie15
    I'm 15 and i want to be emancipated but i really have no way to do it cause my mom is to nosy. I have friends that would help me but they live right around the conner from my mom. The reason i want to get emancipated i cause my mom just got custody of me two years ago and it seems the only reason for that is for me to clean her house. she gives me eight dollars a week and i have to go out and buy my own shampoo and girl things. Is this a good reason to get out on my own. My real dad even says its a good idea:(

    You will need to get established before you can apply for it and in some states you can't apply for it at all. If your real issue is cleaning the house then wait till your really on your own. You will be doing it anyway including working 40 or more hours a week and still trying to go to school etc. You won't have time for friends or parties because you will be too busy keeping your head above water. Souds like fun ?
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    Aug 14, 2008, 02:00 PM
    Who is going to hire a 15 year old girl full time? Where are you going to live full time? What about school? Did you finish school yet?

    If you have all of the above answers figured out and exist on your own without any financial help from anyone, then fine, get emancipated.

    If you think about it, getting $8 a week isn't bad for just cleaning the house. Lots of kids don't even get that and you're complaining? Let me guess. Mom works full time. You go to school. Mom feels that you should learn some responsibility and has decided to bring a little reality into your life by keeping the house clean. Do you generate dirty laundry or dirty dishes? Of course you do, so why do you think you shouldn't clean the clothes or get the dishes clean? You will have to do these chores for the rest of your life unless you have a maid come in and do them for you.

    If you want to be emancipated since you don't like housework you are not thinking straight. You need to spend a few more years being a kid. You're going to be a grown up for a long time soon enough.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 02:05 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by stinawords
    I don't see a judge allowing it. In order for you to be emancipated you have to have a job that will support you including your house/appartment, utilities and food. If you don't have that then you better wait till you are 18. You can try to talk to your mom. The fact that she was ablt to get custody shows that she probably isn't as bad as you think. If you really think it's bad talk to your school couselor and he/she will have many more ideas for you.

    Absolutely correct LEGAL advice - you need to be self supporting for a long enough period to show that Court that you will remain self supporting; you must have living arrangements available (and that's on your own, not staying with friends); in some States you must have a high school diploma or (minimally) your GED.

    You could, of course, have custody transferred to your father if he is willing and your mother is somehow unfit or a danger to you, either physically or mentally, or neglectful.

    The other issues are more relationship/mother-daughter issues and there is no legal solution other than going to a school counsellor or a family Doctor and discussing the problems and asking for assistance.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 02:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
    You could, of course, have custody transferred to your father if he is willing and your mother is somehow unfit or a danger to you, either physically or mentally, or neglectful.

    I was going to suggest having her custody transferred to her dad too but it looks like mom probably just got custody (probably off him?) a couple years ago and most likely would fight it. I have a feeling she just doesn't like living with mom and no legal grounds to get custody changed.

    Asking your dad to convince mom would require a well thought out plan on how you were going to support yourself and reassure your mom that you would still be there for you and your mom being against it it would take a good long time for her to even consider agreeing but by that time you would be older and working on your plan which if you want out of mom's house anyway you should start working on putting your plan together now with or without dad's help. Then at the very least you WILL be able to make the transition by the time you are 18.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 02:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by N0help4u
    I was going to suggest having her custody transferred to her dad too but it looks like mom probably just got custody (probably off him?) a couple years ago and most likely would fight it. I have a feeling she just doesn't like living with mom and no legal grounds to get custody changed.

    Asking your dad to convince mom would require a well thought out plan on how you were going to support yourself and reassure your mom that you would still be there for you and your mom being against it it would take a good long time for her to even consider agreeing but by that time you would be older and working on your plan which if you want out of mom's house anyway you should start working on putting your plan together now with or without dad's help. Then at the very least you WILL be able to make the transition by the time you are 18.


    Good point - I just thought perhaps because Dad thought this is/was a "good idea" maybe he'd like to pay for an Attorney and go back into Court and try to change this (which, of course, he very well may not be able to do).

    And the plan you put forward is certainly putting OP's feet on the path to eventual emancipation.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 02:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
    Good point - I just thought perhaps because Dad thought this is/was a "good idea" maybe he'd like to pay for an Attorney and go back into Court and try to change this (which, of course, he very well may not be able to do).

    And the plan you put forward is certainly putting OP's feet on the path to eventual emancipation.
    :D Its always worth a try.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 05:51 PM
    You can not just get emancipated, you can't just move in with a friend. You have to earn enough money to pay all of your own bills, and have the money to hire an attorney
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    Aug 14, 2008, 09:16 PM
    Listen I know how it feels I live with my mom and step dad you just need to hold on try to go and get a scholarship go to college and start anew even if you exclude your mom from it but if she wanted custody of you she must love you both me and you will get through this
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