I am a mother of three children, my oldest child (12)has falsely accused me of abusing her, Twice, (once 4 years ago and again in May)in an attempt to live with her father. A man that has not done anything for her emotionally or financially for the past 10 years.I went through the motions and have recently gotten my charges of D.V and assault and a TPO dissmised and I waiting for the paper work from child services stating that my case is closed. Although they found her claims to be unsubstantiated, they kept my case opened until my court case was dissmised. Sadly, for me I can no longer deal with her. I love my child whole-heartedly but I REFUSE to continue to jepordized the safety and well being of myself and my other children because of her actions anytime she get upset with me. I would like to relinquish all of my parental rights to my child because I refuse to begin to pay her father or his relatives one red cent!!! I have raised her all by myself for the past 10 years without Any help from ANY of them AT ALL. He owes me over 16,000$ in child support as we speak. It may sound petty but I feel like it his and his families turn to struggle the way I have. He only has 6 years to go. I can no longer trust her and I do not want her to come back to my home, I am afraid to be around her without witnesses, besides she wants to be with him and his family and that is where she is. And I cant live like that with my OWN children. We were never married and he didn't even sign her birth certificate because his family told him he wouldn't have to pay child support if he didn't. I have asked her father to go file for custody of her but he will not go probably out of fear that he will be arrested for failure to pay child support. We live in Ohio but in two different cities. So my question is how do I get this process started myself.

N0help4u

If he has never legally acknowledged your daughter how have you established that he owes 16, in child support or is that for the other kids?
Why don't you just tell him that if he or his family plan on filing for child support you will go back to court to enforce the order on his child support.
What all do you hope to gain by relinquishing your rights besides the child support issue?

Synnen

Oh, hooray! Yet another parent that can't handle the child that they raised!

Guess what? You can't just relinquish your rights to a child without someone willing to step in and adopt---are you going to place your 12 year old, behaviourally difficult child for adoption? Good luck finding parents for her--no one ELSE wants that kind of child either. The courts generally do not allow ANYONE to relinquish rights, especially not if they just want to get out of child support.

2 things here:

1. Go back to court, and get the child support order enforced. Get the father to either pay the back child support or go to jail.
2. Get counseling. You cannot just hand off your CHILD when you get sick of her. She's not a puppy, for heaven's sake! You raised her to this point--surely your parenting has had SOME influence on her! And if it hasn't, well, whose fault is that?

stevetcg

You can refuse anything you want. I am sure the judge will care about your feelings on the matter as he is ordering you to pay support or go to jail.

Learn to parent. You cannot just pass off a child because you dont like how it turned out. This is your child. Who, justifiably, will probably hate you forever.

N0help4u

Since his family is willing to finish raising her you need to take it to court and go through the proper procedure.
You are worried about ending up having to pay child support
while he is not paying child support. I think the support issue should be the least of the concern now. Your daughter having a place stable place to live should be the main concern. Since your in laws were willing to take her in and the dad owes that much support I am sure you can come to some amicable agreement.

Ms Concerned

[quote=N0help4u;1817079]If he has never legally acknowledged your daughter how have you established that he owes 16, in child support or is that for the other kids?
Why don't you just tell him that if he or his family plan on filing for child support you will go back to court to enforce the order on his child support.
What all do you hope to gain by relinquishing your rights besides the child support issue?[/QUOTE

We have gone to child support and an order was established when my child was 1 years old. I want my child to be happy, but that was not the purpose of me explaining my situation. He owes me 16,000 in C.S for her and her alone. I'm not here to explain myself to anyone! I came here to get REAL legal advice. If all the info. I have given wasn't enough it's obvious you can't help me and I guess I was wrong about this website

N0help4u

I was just trying to better understand the situation.
Other than going to court and straightening this all out I don't know what else to tell you. You sound like you are looking for another legal out without the court involvement but the court IS the legal way. So no I do not know what else to tell you.

Ms Concerned

Thanks

stevetcg

The legal advice is "you cannot terminate your parental rights unless someone is adopting the child" and "you cannot get out of paying support if the custodial parent/other wishes to pursue it in court"

Ms Concerned

I already replied to you but this is what I think of this comment...You have your opinion and I have mine...But yours will count to me when you struggle to take care of a child