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I am a mother of three children, my oldest child (12)has falsely accused me of abusing her, Twice, (once 4 years ago and again in May)in an attempt to live with her father. A man that has not done anything for her emotionally or financially for the past 10 years.I went through the motions and have recently gotten my charges of D.V and assault and a TPO dissmised and I waiting for the paper work from child services stating that my case is closed. Although they found her claims to be unsubstantiated, they kept my case opened until my court case was dissmised. Sadly, for me I can no longer deal with her. I love my child whole-heartedly but I REFUSE to continue to jepordized the safety and well being of myself and my other children because of her actions anytime she get upset with me. I would like to relinquish all of my parental rights to my child because I refuse to begin to pay her father or his relatives one red cent!!! I have raised her all by myself for the past 10 years without Any help from ANY of them AT ALL. He owes me over 16,000$ in child support as we speak. It may sound petty but I feel like it his and his families turn to struggle the way I have. He only has 6 years to go. I can no longer trust her and I do not want her to come back to my home, I am afraid to be around her without witnesses, besides she wants to be with him and his family and that is where she is. And I cant live like that with my OWN children. We were never married and he didn't even sign her birth certificate because his family told him he wouldn't have to pay child support if he didn't. I have asked her father to go file for custody of her but he will not go probably out of fear that he will be arrested for failure to pay child support. We live in Ohio but in two different cities. So my question is how do I get this process started myself.
I gave you legal advice before I gave you personal advice.
Sure, I have skeletons in my closet--who doesn't? I have 2 years worth of posts here--go through and read about my skeletons, if you want.
I can see from your treatment of me WHY your daughter wants to live with your in-laws. If you treat her the same way, it's no wonder at all.
I don't give a flying fig about whether or not you WANT to pay child support. Either you raise your child, or you pay child support. As a taxpayer, *I* don't want to pay for your child. You brought her into this world--you have the responsibility to take care of her UNLESS someone else wants to adopt her.
You want a way to get out of raising her AND get out of child support? Adoption is it.
Get a good lawyer, regardless. You'll need one to even ATTEMPT what you are trying to do.
I already replied to you but this is what I think of this comment...You have your opinion and I have mine...But yours will count to me when you struggle to take care of a child
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I raised 4 kids. My one was a problem from the time he was 7 yrs old. I can't count the number of times he kicked me in the chest to the point my lungs burned all because he was beating up my other kids or neighbor kids and I was trying to pull him off before he sent them to the hospital. Almost 16 yrs later I still can feel the pain in my head at times where he smacked me with objects. He had serious emotional issues and took it out on everybody else. Eventually, as a teen, he was taken off me and Childrens services decided to take my other son as well because they saw him as a problem too.
I am not nor have I downed you for your need to let go of your daughter because I HAVE been there.
All I am saying is that you want to know what to do and I DID give you the legal answer.
Further more I really don't know what kind of legal advice you think would solve your getting out of paying child support IF they pursue it. If it were that easy to get out of child support every dead beat dad in America would be relinquishing their rights.
Even if you had called Child protective services and complained to the point they removed her and placed her where ever, they could technically come after you for support in that situation as well.
I was fortunate enough they didn't come after me and make me pay, but they very easily could have.
25 yrs ago my bf's was living with his parents and they put their name on the papers when my bf got his son. Even though his parents are now dead and his son grown he is still paying back support even though he raised his son simply because his parents wanted their name as the guardians and then went after him for support.
I don't think i will need a lawyer because the proof is in the pudding by his payment history...
I know you don't want to hear this but IF HIS parents get guardianship and go after support then his legal obligations and arrears have NOTHING to do with him in a court of law because THEY would be going after you for support and he is out of the picture legally.
What he owes you would be considered a totally separate issue.
If you don't like the answers you are getting here then go talk to your lawyer. They will charge you a lot more than on here (being that you are getting this information for free) but he/she can tell you the same thing and make something off of it at least.
The legal advice is "you cannot terminate your parental rights unless someone is adopting the child" and "you cannot get out of paying support if the custodial parent/other wishes to pursue it in court"
You must not know the law or it's different in your state, because there is NO WAY a judge would make me pay child support to a man that is 16,000$ in debt to me for child support save your advice because as you said you are not an expert.
If you don't like the answers you are getting here then go talk to your lawyer. They will charge you a lot more than on here (being that you are getting this information for free) but he/she can tell you the same thing and make something off of it at least.
As I stated earlier I thought that this was a website with legal experts, and no I don't like the answers, and I doubt they will say the same thing as what alot of thes people are saying...I didn't know that the experts are self-proclaimed. I am not just trying to get out of child support, but I don't think I should have to pay him when he has not helped me in the past ten years ...but your right, you get what you pay for. And as for no help I didn't see your comment about arrears at first but thats the only sound advice on here so far. but as I said in my orignal post...I ASKED HOW DO YOU GET THE PROCEDURE STARTED! NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS.
Since you seem to know the law so well why are you asking?
Talk to a lawyer and get the ball rolling on getting him to pay back child support.
lOOK THIS IS MY LAST COMMENT TO YOU TOO. IF I KNEW THE LAW I WOULD NOT HAVE ASKED THE QUESTION THAT NOT EVEN YOU CAN SEEM TO ANSWER! HOW DO I GET THE PROCEDURE STARTED MYSELF THAT'S ALL I ASKED, NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS
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