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What is the legalities to relinquishing rights of a child whom you feel you can not fulfill an obligation to because of not knowing the child and not being able to comply with conservator rights. And also when rights are relinquished is child support still paid?
I think your last question is the premise of all your questions. You want to know if, by terminating your rights, you would still required to pay child support. I do not think that a judge will allow termination of rights in order to avoid paying child support. In fact, judges take a very dim view of such actions. There are laws preventing such petitions.
Why do not know this child? Why are you not able to "comply with conservator rights"? What is preventing you from being in that child's life?
Reason relinquishing rights is for the fact that i have no idea who this child is. Reason for that is his mother never told me she was pregnant. I found out from a 3rd party source after i had left for basic that she had the baby that same month. She maintained the story that the child belonged to her then boyfriend and told me i was no where in the picture. 8 months later she tells me i am the father and test comes out possitive. Now for all you know it alls my answer is simply this. I am fully aware of what it does to a child to believe someone is his father and find out months or even years later that he is just a man there. i ask about relinquishing my rights simply for the childs sake. I worry bout the child because i was the kid who believed he had his real father standing in front of him and i would have rather never known the difference. So why will i step into a childs life a year later after he already has a father. Im not skipping out on any child support. I get paid for kids im in the Army. They advance your pay for each child. So why would i worry bout child support. Im looking to pull myself out of a picture that a child should never see in the first place.
I think your last question is the premise of all your questions. You want to know if, by terminating your rights, you would still required to pay child support. I do not think that a judge will allow termination of rights in order to avoid paying child support. In fact, judges take a very dim view of such actions. There are laws preventing such petitions.
Why do not know this child? Why are you not able to "comply with conservator rights"? What is preventing you from being in that child's life?
I believe i answered this thoroughly in the last post on my question. I do appologize if i come across wrong. And to be honest it seems as if you are disgusted that i would pull myself out of a childs life. Question to you is do you fully understand my question and reasoning or are you taking a mothers stand point on this possition. I do love my son that i have now. I was there for his entire life from the second he was born and hopefully i'll be there to congradulate him on lifes accomplishments but with being in the army<hense the reason of not being able to be in the childs life> it might put a damper on things if i dont come back from iraq. But nonetheless The child i will be relinquishing rights to does not know me. I will not be able to fulfill the rights they say i am "forced" to have. I just dont want to hurt this child anymore then what consequences already have.
Yes! So, when you relinquish your rights, you give up everything and gain nothing. Why would you wanna to do that?
excon
Your question to me is the same as the lady above this one. I am unaware of anything about this child vise versa with the child and me. But im a bastard son as well. I know what it felt like to think a man was my father and then find out he just took some other s place. It ruined a big picture for me and family life. So im going to let the child live with the father he already has sense i have seen them and know they are happy. Why would i ruin happiness its hard to find and the child is better off with him not me. Im military meanin i will move alot and the chance of me getting full custody in tx are pretty slim. Plus that fight would put the child into an emmotional drain dropping him into nothingness possibly causing him to run wild and act as if he careless for the law or anytype or authority. Call my bluff but check the stats. Stats dont lie they are just reviews of others lives.
I am so sorry to hear of your unfortunate circumstance but I have to say as a mother at the age of 16, my babys father was really not in his life, hardly at all, but he always knew who he was. we talked about him often and kept pictures hung up on the fridge of the two of them together (the few we had) and when my son was 2mo old i started daiting someone and 2yrs later we were married now my son is 5 and half years old and he always knew who his father was even when he was not around. he also knew my boyfriend/husband was his daddy too. And i'll tell you what, it has made him a much happier healtier young man because of this. he has love coming in from so many directions. And you know cirimstances change over time. Maybe you cannot be there for your son now or even 2 or 3 yrs from now but I'll tell you what, when you do come home, he'll be there. It won't be easy at first but he'll know who you are and as he gets older he will understand why you weren't there when he was young and he will look up to you for that. I think you should talk to the mother and her boyfriend and keep it open and honest and let them know that you are grateful for him being there to take care of your son but you will continue to support him not because it is your obligation but because you are his father and love him and that you would like her to always remind him of you and send videos home when you can talking to your son and reading him bedtime stories. If this woman is a good mother to your child and wants the best for him then she will do this, maybe not for you but for this child. I hope this has helped and keep me posted about this situation. If you need to talk to someone you can email me and I will be happy to try to help you.
Yea unfortunately the chance of ever seeing him or him knowing who i am is slim to none. His mother doesnt want me to have anything to do with him. no pictures of him or anything. So....
So what??? Of course, if you say it's so, then it is. But, in the real world, it isn't. You're kidding yourself.
The mother doesn't want.............. the mother doesn't want.... Who cares what the mother doesn't want??? Uhhhhhh, dude! The mother ISN'T in charge. Course, if you go away, then she is.
You don't want to fight for your kid, ok. But, it's YOU, not the LAW that's making that decision.
If you had stated your question in the fullness you followed with, then it would have made better sense. Yes, I was critical because it came across and you wanting to ditch your responsibilities. It still sounds kind of "whiny" - you are the Father and if you truly want to see this child, who is to stop you? The Mother of the child? She only has so many rights and you also have so many rights. You have the right to see your child. Excon said it right, only you are stopping yourself.
Now for some empathy. Yes, I do have some for you. When I was in college, this kind of situation happened more often than not. The girl was pregnant and she did not know yet, her bf was sent to Vietnam, when she found out she was frantic, hooked up with another guy and the original bf never knew the wiser than the child she was bearing was his. It is dirty playing on the part of the woman. The guy deserves to know what is going on. Then whatever choices are made are made together and, hopefully, for the better interests of the child. Not all couples should be together for the sake of a child. There are times life is better with only one parent.
You ask if I understand you situation and I do. So I am going to ask you if terminating your parental rights to this child you say you do not know will affect the child you have now? Is having the child you are raising now ANY part of your desire to sever any ties to the previous child? Do you feel that acknowledging and being involved in the other child's life would some way negatively affect your relationship with your child who is with you? Are you worried that your attention would be divided? That there would be jealousy in your family? Any embarassment to you as your past would be brought forth for all to know. But perhaps they know it anyways. Just a question or two or three.
That being said. Take your concerns to a Family Law attorney. Express yourself as well as you have here. Your reasons make sense but I am not the one would grant your petition. Find out if you even have a good legal leg to stand on.
So I will leave you with this caveat - knowing you have a child that does not know you may come back to haunt you someday. How would you explain that to a young adult standing at your door, wanting to know what happened and why it happened. You have a great opportunity to make a diffference in that child's life. I truly hope you choose to put forth the greater effort. Terminating parental rights does not terminate you being a parent.
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