I am currently 8 months pregnant and the father of my baby refuses to speak to me, i have no idea what he plans on doing as far as custody, etc. since he will not return my calls.
Ideally, I would like to ask him to relinquish his parental rights but if I do that does that mean that I would not be able to get child support from him? Basically, if he relinquishes his rights does this include any financial obligation he has to my child as well?
Relinquishing rights means only that he will not have the right to make decisions regarding your child (i.e. where s/he will go to school, if s/he needs medical treatment, etc) it does not mean that he is not obligated to pay support. He was responsible for bringing the child into the world, he is responsible for its financial well being.
If reqlinquishing rights did in fact mean that parents would be giving up financial support there would be long lines around the courthouses of the world.
First sorry, it is not up to you for one thing, and visitation and paying child support are not related, they are two seperate issues, a parent can not be in contempt of the court order just because the other parent is.
So no you can't make him give up his rights, unless he does something to show a danger to the child nomrally, so he will have his rights to visit, and be part of the childs life if he wants to. But you can not force him to.
Next the court will not let you give up the childs rights to the childs money, they will protect the interest of the child over your wishes.
So sorry if you want all or nothing but that is not how it works, the sooner you learn you have to work within the legal system the faster you will understand what is gong to actually happen
Apparently I should have given more of a background if people were going to offer their personal opinions, however, I was not asking for personal opinions....I was asking if anyone knew what the law was as far as parental rights and child support, both of which i have been told by my lawyer are separate items.
I appreciate the comment left by "endless echo" but it has never been my choice for my child not to see his father.....his father has made his own choice and I was simply inquiring for the best interests of my son. I am not the type of person who is going to not allow my sons father to see him and ask him to pay me money.....I would rather not have anything from him but my son is not going to go without because his father decided that he was going to be a child himself and not own up to his responsibilities, whether he wanted a child or not....he created one and he needs to be responsible!!!
Thank you all for your opinions, none of which helped beside J_9
Yes, Lisa, the two are total and complete seperate entities.
Now, if you choose that you do not want or need the money from your ex, the judge MAY take that into consideration, but that is not set in stone. Actually it rarely happens unless you can prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that you can handle the finances alone.
Lisa, he will not return your calls, but that does not mean that all is lost as far as your child is concerned. Things may change, but if they don't please go after what your child deserves and needs.
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