Suffolk CTY, NY, residents - parents of 18y old son seek information on how to evict him from our home. Our 18Y son left home in 10/07 due to his inability to follow our rules. He was living in vacant houses for awhile until his grandparents agreed to let him live with them. He stayed there for a month and left for the same reasons. He lived in his car for breif period and then he became ill. We agreed to allow him to come home after being ill to get well and prepare to go to job corp. There he could finish his high school education and obtain vocational training. He has been home from APR 07 till now and we are sorry we let him come back. He is disrespectful. He steals, lazy, does not clean up after him self nor shower regularly. He has lost 3 jobs since he has been home;Checkers fast food - advising it was too hard;tire shop- being disrespectful to a customer;another fast food place- he failed to show up. He won't work or go to school. We try to enforce our rules but the law is not in a parents favor. He is setting abad example for my 16Y old daughter. He calls the police on us when we refuse to open our door to let him all hours of the night. The police have advised us that we will go to jail if we lock him out and that we must legally evict him. How do you legally evict someone that does not pay rent?

trich52

[quote=trich52]Suffolk CTY, NY, residents - parents of 18y old son seek information on how to evict him from our home. Our 18Y son left home in 10/07 due to his inability to follow our rules. He was living in vacant houses for awhile until his grandparents agreed to let him live with them. He stayed there for a month and left for the same reasons. He lived in his car for brief period and then he became ill. We agreed to allow him to come home after being ill to get well and prepare to go to job corp. There he could finish his high school education and obtain vocational training. He has been home from APR 07 till now and we are sorry we let him come back. He is disrespectful. He steals, lazy, does not clean up after him self nor shower regularly. He has lost 3 jobs since he has been home;Checkers fast food - advising it was too hard;tire shop- being disrespectful to a customer;another fast food place- he failed to show up. He won't work or go to school. We try to enforce our rules but the law is not in a parents favor. He is setting a bad example for my 16Y old daughter. He calls the police on us when we refuse to open our door to let him all hours of the night. The police have advised us that we will go to jail if we lock him out and that we must legally evict him. How do you legally evict someone that does not pay rent?

mr.yet

Tell the police he does not live here anymore, he is 18 years old (legal age).

THe next time he calls the police have him arrested for trespassing and disorderly conduct and insists on it, tell the police to do their job.

You are the property owner not him.

Tootruetooblue

He has to be given 30 days notice that he is being evicted then he is out. Get the appropriate forms from a lawyer. It should not be costly.

There is nothing stopping you from pressing charges when he steals from you. If he drinks, you can have him arrested for drinking underage. If he's being abusive, have him arrested for that, too.

Just don't take the abuse. Draw a hard line in the sand and let him know, "when you are ready to do something positive we will help you but you are no longer welcome to live here. We will help you get to job corp, get counseling, get off of drugs/alcohol (I'm making a wild guess he's an addict - you may not know it but he probably is). We will not be part of your life in any capacity if this is the life you are going to chose. Let us know when you are ready to make some changes." Then, stick to it.

timgoehrig

that has to be the worst answer ever. at least the last part. its parents like you, tootruetooblue, that drive kids like us to not like our parents. b/c parents like u make assumptions and convictions without any reason or logic. u have never met the child aforementioned, and yet u say he PROBABLY IS addicted to drugs alcohol?!?! thats horrible. theres more to this story than the parents may admit.