I live in KS. I don't know who my baby's biological father is, how can my husband adopt? There is no fater listed on the birth certificate. And what if someone later in life were to question if they were the father what would happen then?

KISSROMEO2

That's screwed up. I thought domestics was supposed to NOT ruin children's lives and do whats best for them???? Obviously if the father doesn't care to whether the child is being adopted, they must not care enough to be a real father. Grrr!! Stupid law system.
And if the parent voluntarily reliquishes his rights, then it can't be overturned, right?

ScottGem

What's screwed up? That the bio parent can't have his rights taken away? And what do "domestics" have to do with anything?

But, if the bio parent voluntarily relinquishes their rights, that's generally irrevocable.

KISSROMEO2

No, no. I meant it's screwed up that a dude who has essentially screwed up a child's life by not being a parent also has the decision as to whether he wants to screw up his/her life AGAIN by deciding whether or not the child can be adopted by another person who IS willing to be a father.....

Domestic Relations are the people who I go through when it comes to child support and custody.

ScottGem

Well now, there seem to be at least two parties involved in screwing up the child's life. This is the main reason for societal taboos against extra-marital sex. So that children are not bought into the world by people unable and/or unwilling to care for them.

There are also two sides to the story. For every father who has turned his back on his child, there may be another father who knew nothing about the child and would have stood up to care for them if they had known.

KISSROMEO2

Back to my situation, what if the father shows no interest, straight up denies the child, doesn't want to pay child support, and refuses to see the child. I would think allowing my fiance to adopt my daughter would make him pi$$ed that I found someone to make me happy (although it makes me sound selfish - which I'm not - it's a reality) and therefore, refuse to allow her to be signed over.
Problem is, you'd think that would just cause for him to pay child support - but child support is not what I want nor need (well that's a lie - but to deal with him, I'd rather not get his money) but rather him to be off the back of my mind and not risk him coming in and out of my daughter's life.
I'm talking about my youngest daughter here, who was with me when I was pregnant, then he took off, then when she was like 6 months old, he said he wanted to take care of her and be a part of her life, til he took off again... he saw her for a little bit after she turned one... and that was it.... Now, he denies he has a daughter all together....
I mean, seriously? I wish there was a way to just pick him up and out permanently of my daughter's life.
He really IS no good for her. All he EVER came around for was a relationship with me and/or booty... which I fell for at the beginning til I realised what he was really about...
I mean... it sucks that someone who actually sucks as a parent... wants nothing to do with her.. and then have to BEG him to permission for someone else to adopt her... I mean, this is ridiculous.
BY THE WAY, since you know so much ~ if I go for him to adopt her, would her sperm donor be brought in for a hearing (obviously).. but if he doesn't show up or we can't find him (as he jumps from friend's house to friend's house.. but I'm not even sure of that because he's a pathological liar).... So....

nya

I agree there has to be due dilligence in locating the other party to inform him that this action is going on.