My G/F will not let our newborn child have my last name.
She swears that im the father and Im pretty sure that I am.
We both want to be together and get married one day.
But she still refuses to let me have my name on the birth certificate.

Outr Baby girl was born yesterday, so I have to make a decision in a few hours.

Should i sign?

If I dont then I wont have any rights whatsoever.

GV70

You have rights to ask for DNA tests .First you need to be acknowledged legaly as a father.

hossbonnam

yes I know this. she said im the father. but should I sign now?
My only reason for red flag is the fact that she doesnt want my last name on certificate

J_9

As you already know, it is her decision. Now the reason may be that because the two of you are not married, should you break up, the baby will have her last name. Should the two of you get married, she can change the baby's name to yours. It's much easier to change the last name when there is a marriage, but much harder to change should there be a breakup.

If you know the baby is yours, there should be no reason that you don't sign.

sdc719

I went through this before and i understand why she is doing it. If things go sour with you guys there is a lot of complications that will arise if the baby has your last name and you guys dont get married. It is very difficult to change the baby's name back to her own if she ends up a single mother. And it shouldnt be a red flag that she is not putting your last name its a woman's right to decide the last name of your child since you guys didnt marry before she gave birth. Also if you are sure the baby is yours then you two should go to the attorney general's office and sign an AOP (acknowledgement of paternity) otherwise if you do the paternity testing the cost is going to fall on you (usually costs 200.00 and up). Oh, and if you are wanting to be involved with the child it would be to your benefit to sign the birth certificate to cover yourself in the parental rights area unless you want to fight for rights later on.

Fr_Chuck

personally I would worry why if the baby is yours, and you plan on getting married for real, why she would not let the baby have your name.

so I would not sign, I would request a DNA test just to be sure, and then you still have all the rights if you do split up

Questionshelp

The ball is in your court. Try to come to an understanding between the both of you.